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Old 11-01-2011, 11:25 AM
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I have had genital herpes for almost 3 years. I am looking for some friends who are willing to talk about it. I only had one outbreak when I was diagnosed, but I don't know what to do if I have viral shedding or if some day I get another outbreak. I am afraid I will never find anyone who would spend his life with me because of this. I took every precaution that I know. I was very depressed. I'm really hoping to hear of some new treatment for this. Thanks for your advice and response.
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Old 11-01-2011, 01:34 PM
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HSV-2 is not that big a deal. Something like 1 in 8 men and 1 in 4 women have it already. It is likely that a good many potential sexual partners you meet already have it.

It's not too much of an inconvenience, I've heard, after the first few outbreaks (which can be severe). There are antiviral medications you can take during an outbreak to shorten its length and lessen its severity, and those are best talked about with a doctor, not me.

Avoid sexual contact when you have an outbreak--it's the time you're most likely to pass it on. The disease can shed asymptomatically, also, though that is much less common. Also, use condoms. It doesn't totally negate risk, but it really helps.

I don't have any HSV, but a guy I'm seeing (Sven) has HSV-1. He has had it for many years and rarely gets outbreaks anymore. My husband and I talked about how we were willing to assume the small risk of my getting HSV-1. Sven has had one outbreak (the first for several years) during our involvement. I didn't engage in any contact with his mouth until it had cleared up. It was a little over a week. Not a big deal.

Don't panic. You'll be fine! What you have is common.
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Old 11-01-2011, 01:40 PM
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Oh, also, I'm not sure whether you are a man or a woman. If you are a woman, and are pregnant and have an outbreak around the time of delivery, they will do a C-section to avoid passing the virus to the baby.

Also, most people have had at least some kind of herpes in their lives--chicken pox is also herpes! It just has less stigma because we don't associate it with sex.
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Old 11-01-2011, 02:59 PM
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Shingles is a form of herpes also.

Some people feel that herpes is something horrible, others just consider it a pesky skin condition. I guess it depends on where your outbreak occurs. Some people get genital herpes right on their genitalia, others on their butt cheeks, and you can get it on your face. You can have oral herpes (HSV1) on the genitals, too. I assume you know where your outbreak occurs and how often.

A close friend of mine has HSV2 and I spent many nights talking with him about it and helping him find info on it. But he did some fantastic research on his own. I will share what I remember...

Once exposed to the virus, it lives in the spinal nerves. The virus is considered latent while hiding out in the spinal column, but can still become active, usually during times of stress. When an outbreak happens, the virus replicates and travels through the nerves to the skin. The outbreak will always stay localized to the area of the skin that is "served" by the nerves it lodges in (that region is called a dermatone). So, there is no reason to worry about it spreading elsewhere on your body. Some studies have shown that having HSV2 might offer a little resistance to getting HSV1, but apparently there's a lot of debate about that.

HSV can also "shed" its "particles" (and make it possible to infect someone) without any obvious symptoms. Suppressive therapy with a drug called Valtrex, or its generics acyclovir or valacyclovir, is supposed to be very helpful. It prevents outbreaks and suppresses asymptomatic shedding of the virus. It can be taken once a day (this is what my friend does). This family of drugs inhibits viral replication (and therefore shedding) by providing phony DNA building blocks. The virus needs the DNA building block to replicate, grabs the drug's molecule, and is fooled by it. When it goes to attach the next molecule in order to replicate and create a chain that leads to the skin, it can’t find where it’s supposed to attach. The drug doesn’t provide the right attachment for it. Hence, no outbreak or shedding.

Apparently, the drugs in this family seem to work a little differently for different people. So someone he knows had to switch to Valtrex, but my friend found valacyclovir to work really well for him and he doesn't have outbreaks anymore. He also takes supplements like Lysine and herbs to support his immune system. It seems that the reason outbreaks happen during times of stress is because stress affects our immune systems. So, if you strengthen and support your immune system, it can help prevent the herpes virus from finding a "reason" to show up again. Your doctor should be willing to work with you on finding the right suppressive drug for you. My friend says there are no side effects.

Of course, it's still important to use barrier protection during sex, even if you are taking drugs for it.
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Old 11-01-2011, 03:06 PM
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You may want to check out http://herpesite.org/.
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Old 11-01-2011, 03:06 PM
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The reality is that up to 85% of the population has ALREADY been exposed to either HSV1 or HSV2. That means that already have the virus in their body - regardless of symptoms.

This comes from years and years of people thinking that cold sores are "not a big deal" (let me tell you - as someone who has cold sores, they are a VERY big deal)

You CAN avoid transmission. I have it - my husband has never had an outbreak - but we assume he has the antibodies.

How to prevent HSV transmission.
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Old 11-01-2011, 04:11 PM
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This comes from years and years of people thinking that cold sores are "not a big deal" (let me tell you - as someone who has cold sores, they are a VERY big deal)
I think what people mean when they say that is a) you won't die, and b) you're not a bad person because you have the virus.

I forgot to add that other good ways of strengthening your immune system include proper diet, exercise, and rest.
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Old 11-01-2011, 05:54 PM
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I think what people mean when they say that is a) you won't die, and b) you're not a bad person because you have the virus.

I forgot to add that other good ways of strengthening your immune system include proper diet, exercise, and rest.
No - what they mean is that if you have genital herpes, your ass is diseased and you're unworthy of sexual contact.

Having a cold sore is 'no big deal' - in that it doesn't have the same social stigma of being a "diseased whore" - you're just unfortunate that your mother or grandmother or aunt or uncle who had cold sores kissed you as a child.

The reality is that genital herpes is a 'gentler' virus, and that oral herpes is more likely to move around on various parts of your body, potentially causing blindness and other issues if it gets into the brain.

Both viruses like to stay in their "home territory" but will happily take up residence in other locations (IE: oral on the genitals and vice versa)

The viruses share about 50% dna - so they are fairly similar.

What pisses me off the most is the social stigma.

Oh. And the excruciating pain when you pee because you're stressed and having a fucking flare.
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