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View Poll Results: Where did you meet your current partner(s)?
Online (chatrooms, Facebook, forums, dating sites, online gaming...) 18 32.73%
Nightlife (bars, clubs, private parties, raves, shows...) 5 9.09%
Work/school 14 25.45%
Through friends/existing partners 13 23.64%
Shared interests/hobbies (check this if you met them in a poly/BDSM/swinging event) 13 23.64%
Just started talking at a random public place 5 9.09%
During a holiday/trip 2 3.64%
Somewhere else 5 9.09%
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Old 08-17-2011, 12:26 PM
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Default How did you meet your most recent partner?

Just wanted to a test theory AND the poll feature of the forums.

I recently read that an overwhelming majority of couples have met each other at work, online or in a bar/club. I was surprised because I thought the most common way to meet someone would be through existing friends and connections.

Anyhoo, maybe this could help someone who is wondering how to meet other polys in what are the most common places where they may be found.

(Don't worry about the headline, I posted this while I didn't know that you could have a multiple-choice polls. Also, I don't know how to search the forums for polls only, so don't know if there's already been one like this ).
Me: bi female in my twenties
Dating: Moonlightrunner
Metamour: Windflower

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Old 08-18-2011, 01:38 AM
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We are in a quad. I met male DP on PMM and DH met female DP about the same time on okcupid. I really liked male DP so i added him to facebook and we were friends online for over a year before we actually met. female DP did some editing work for DH. kind of funny how we all came together.
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Old 08-18-2011, 01:43 AM
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oh i even met DH on myspace almost 3 years ago.
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Old 08-18-2011, 09:18 AM
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I met my boyfriend, who is only at the time, in a ecoteric event in my best friends house. I was then with one woman who is jelous and she did't let me to be poly, and then we brake up, and now I am with this man, but we are still only two
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Old 08-18-2011, 10:38 AM
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I met my girl while dancing locally.
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Old 08-18-2011, 06:34 PM
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I met my current lover at a bar but I didn't check off "night life" because it was at lunchtime and we were both there to eat. So it wasn't the typically expected bar pick-up. I chose "somewhere else" for him, because I was thinking of it as a restaurant.

Past lovers: I met Burnsy & Dreamy online (OKC), Shorty through a mutual friend who introduced us, and my husband at the post office.

I have, in my life, dated people I met at the laundromat, in the subway, on an interstate bus, and even while window-shopping on the street -- I strike up conversations with strangers in public places very easily! I've also been involved with neighbors and lots of guys I worked with or for (yes, a few of my bosses). So, for me, there's no set pattern. But I was thinking yesterday how I've never seen any possibilities at school.

PS - In my post-marriage life, I don't think of anyone as partners. I think of them as lovers. My ex-hub was my partner, and I don't know if I want another.
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Old 08-18-2011, 09:06 PM
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The wording doesn`t quite apply to me, but I`ll try to be clear in the interest of polls !
I only have one 'partner', my husband, and I met him via online 11 years ago.
Of the two people I currently 'date' , one I met online 2 yrs ago, and the other I know from high school.
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Old 11-16-2011, 02:02 PM
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Of all places. I met Sara at a dog park. Our dogs became fast friends, we started talking. Invited her to a BBQ I was having. She showed up, stayed after everyone left. we talked, made out.. everything is history from there.
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