Can I delete later if I want?

[Imapolygirlmaybe]

I'm new here. Would like to post my situation with details but I am not terribly comfortable doing that without first knowing if I can delete it later if I feel the need?

I read in one place on the site you can delete your own thread but then later on read something else that said "We are no obbligated to delete a thread you later regret posting."

Just wondered.

thanks

[vixtresses]

I think the rule is that you have 12 hours to edit a post. That would include the ability to delete it, although I don't know if actual deletion is permitted here (it isn't on another forum I'm on).

[NeonKaos]

You have 12 hours to edit or delete posts. That is more than enough time to sleep or sober up and figure out if you regret what you said.

Why would you post something in the first place if you know you're just gonna want to delete it later?

[nycindie]

Even if you don't edit or delete, use aliases or initials and don't write identifying details, like place names or specific events, etc.

It's easy enough to get the gist of your situation across without going into every little detail. Most problems can be boiled down to simple issues, anyway. Read some threads first, to see how it's done.

This forum's posts come up in Google searches, so use your brain about saying anything if you don't want to identify yourself or anyone else.

[NeonKaos]

I think some people secretly hope the people they are talking about will find their posts and read about themselves, especially during the heat of a crisis. Then, when the dust settles a bit and things start to go more smoothly, they go "o noez i wrote about it on teh internetz halp meh"

[vixtresses]

Originally Posted by NeonKaos

I think some people secretly hope the people they are talking about will find their posts and read about themselves, especially during the heat of a crisis. Then, when the dust settles a bit and things start to go more smoothly, they go "o noez i wrote about it on teh internetz halp meh"

I guess that could be, but I also think that this is a place where you can discuss these topics with people who have experience with them. In real life, if you don't know any poly people, you can't get that experience or acceptance. A conversation is preferably in terms of privacy - the words come out, are exchanged, and then are gone. On the internet, the words come out and are there forever. There is of course the option of conversing via PM on a forum like this, but if you're new like me and haven't really made many connections with the folks here yet, that's not as much of an option, and it's likely one will get more feedback and input by posting on the boards. I just think that sometimes it is a bit discomforting to know that the words you put out there are going to be there forever... in a way I guess it's good, in that you have to really think about what you're going to say, but it is also somewhat limiting. But I guess that's part of the idea.