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Old 07-03-2011, 05:58 PM
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The Tiger Woods scandal and others brought the issue of sex addiction into public light. Is sex and addiction or is it just harder from some people to achieve sexual satisfaction that others? Are some people better at going without sex than others and why? What do people think about sex addiction and how it relates to polyamory? How does sex addiction affect polyamorous relationships? Does polyamory have an effect on sex addiction?
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Old 07-03-2011, 06:16 PM
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Old 07-04-2011, 05:58 AM
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Old 07-04-2011, 03:55 PM
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On the topic of sex addiction I agree with Marty Klein:

http://www.sexed.org/archive/article08.html

Let us not mix up addictions and compulsive behavior. It doesn't do justice to either of the issues or anybody suffering from either of them.
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Old 07-04-2011, 07:24 PM
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On the topic of sex addiction I agree with Marty Klein:

http://www.sexed.org/archive/article08.html
That article is hard to deal with because it is very reactionary toward the idea of sex addiction without really discussing alternative perspectives on the types of behavior that might be labelled as "addiction." Likewise, he says that a 12-step type approach might not be the best way to deal with sex addiction but he doesn't really say why or what would work better, etc. In other words, the whole article seems more concerned with the idea of sex addiction as a problem than with addressing why or why not certain sexual behaviors might be(come) problematic or addictive. I am very interested in various reasoning why sex can't be an addiction and, if not, what is good about the behaviors that are getting it labelled as "addiction." I just wish the discussion would be on that level instead of accusations & defensiveness about addiction as a buzz-concept.

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Let us not mix up addictions and compulsive behavior. It doesn't do justice to either of the issues or anybody suffering from either of them.
Ok, what is the difference? Can someone who feels a compulsive desire to engage in various sexual activities still not be addicted? I think you could develop this into an interesting discussion, but it seems more like you're just saying not to mix things up to make the discussion harder and more strained. If this isn't your intent, sorry that I got that impression. Do you actually want to discuss this issue of compulsion vs. addiction with regards to sex?
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Old 07-04-2011, 10:45 PM
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Yes. When u are addicted to a substance you suffer physical withdrawal symptoms. You may also have emotional and mental withdrawal but it's not a physical thing. When you act compulsively you want to do that thing for many mental emotional and varied reasons. Bumif you do not you will not get sick throw up or have any truly physical symptoms.

Treating compulsive symptoms is more like treating OCD than addictions. But I am coming from a therapeutic point of view not that of a laypersons. I feel that people use the word addictions in lieu of compulsions for many reasons but they are not the same.

I will answer more when I am not on my phone and on vacation. ;-)
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poly is about love. Lots of people are poly without the sex addiction.... hell some people are poly without sex..

There is also a love addiction as well. So maybe that applied...

Is everyone in non-monogamy addicted to love/sex/etc... no.. but I would hazard a guess some are.
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Old 07-03-2011, 06:25 PM
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There is also a love addiction as well. So maybe that applied…
Love addiction? What's that?
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Old 07-03-2011, 06:26 PM
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http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Love_addiction
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