Cuddling With Friends - & Non-sexual Intimacy

[River]

It's growing more apparent to me that I'd like to have cuddle-friendly friends with whom I'm not sexually or "romantically" involved, but still quite close. I'm talking clothes on cuddling, mainly, though I could imagine naked cuddling as a real possibility.

Have you any cuddle-friends? Would you like to?

[BrigidsDaughter]

I used to have alot of cuddle friends, but most of them have moved away. I still have one friend that I cuddle with once or twice a month. I'm a very huggy/ cuddly person so I wouldn't mind having more, there are just slim pickings around here these days.

[ray]

I tend to be reserved about who I am cuddly with. I have to feel pretty comfortable before I'll be physically close with someone. I feel fairly sure that I'm not comfortable with platonic naked cuddling. Hell, I'm not even comfortable doing that with those I'm dating. But I am pretty errr inexperienced. I think that's it's perfectly normal to have cuddly friends but it's not something that everyone wants.

[Setxfamily]

We use to have some but when we moved we lost most of our contact with them. We are always looking for news one though.

[opalescent]

I'm not someone that has really understood cuddle friends. I understand the need for touch, and hugs. But cuddling, especially of the naked variety, is something I reserve for lovers. But I think I'm in the minority on this one in the poly and/or alternative groups I'm in.

[MonoVCPHG]

Originally Posted by opalescent

I'm not someone that has really understood cuddle friends. I understand the need for touch, and hugs. But cuddling, especially of the naked variety, is something I reserve for lovers. But I think I'm in the minority on this one in the poly and/or alternative groups I'm in.

I'm with you..I reserve physical closeness like that for people I am completely intimate with. I don't see the purpose to "just cuddling" with friends. Maybe to cop a feel or push a boundary I guess

[MileHighQuad]

In victorian times this was very common actually! They called it "romantic friendship." Google it. There are some good articles on it.

Right around the time my best friend and I declared our attraction to eachother, we would sit and just hold hands, stroke eachother's backs, or brush eachother's hair while watching a movie. At that time we were not yet sexually involved, but it sure turned into that pretty quickly! She and I "click" on a very deep level and so it seemed very natural. However, I cannot imagine doing that with any of my other friends. I guess if I felt a deep connection with them though, it could happen.

[bella123456]

Non sexual loving energy is very important to me I must say. Within my very close circle of good friends - we hug and cuddle without restraint. There are couples in the group...and that pretty much means nothing when we are together..

I'm just as likely to fall asleep cuddled up to my darling teresa (and both of us are straight) as I am to her partner..
If I go to the opera with her partner, who I also love...I will cuddle up against him and we will hold hands throughout..

We all had a weekend away together recently - 7 adults and my child...and it was cuddle after cuddle. No confusion on sexual energy what..so...ever...
I'm straight - I have girlfriends that stay overnight with me and sleep in my bed...we watch films together and fall asleep together...
Similarly my male friends will sleep in my bed when they stay...and we cuddle.

I don't find any of it confusing. I'm a big fan.
And aren't we all so different....a good thing

[River]

Wow, Bella, what a blessed existence you have! Your friends are obviously quite wonderfull people! Reading what you wrote brought a big smile on my face and in my heart. Rock on! (Except at the opera.)

My cuddly-friend, Russell, and I spent the evening together yesterday. We didn't cuddle, but we declared our love to one another and hugged several times. Lots of soulful eye contact and heartfull and soulfull talking. I love him so!

I, too, am very blessed. Overflowingly.

[bella123456]

They are indeed wonderful people, as are the friends I know in the online version of life