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Old 06-20-2011, 09:47 PM
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I was reading the New York Times recently and they had a book review about the "Science of Evil" by Simon Baron-Cohen. He argues that evil can be defined by the degree of lack of empathy. Anyway, I've often thought evil can be defined as the absence of empathy. The review is interesting: http://www.nytimes.com/2011/06/14/sc....html?emc=eta1

More interesting, however, was the empathy quotient online test. Here's the link: http://glennrowe.net/BaronCohen/Empa...yQuotient.aspx

I'll go first. My results were:

Your Score = 38. Below average for empathy for women.

33 - 52 = average (most women score about 47; most men score about 42)
53 - 63 is above average
64 - 80 is very high 80 is maximum
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Old 06-21-2011, 12:50 AM
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I got a 35. There's no way that's right. I cry watching Extreme Home Makeover all the time.
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Old 06-21-2011, 03:51 PM
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Default My empathy score

Your score: 63
0 - 32 = low (most people with Asperger Syndrome or high-functioning autism score about 20)
33 - 52 = average (most women score about 47 and most men score about 42)
53 - 63 is above average
64 - 80 is very high
80 is maximum
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Old 06-21-2011, 05:45 PM
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Your score: 42
0 - 32 = low (most people with Asperger Syndrome or high-functioning autism score about 20)
33 - 52 = average (most women score about 47 and most men score about 42)
53 - 63 is above average
64 - 80 is very high
80 is maximum
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Old 06-21-2011, 06:59 PM
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I found this test helped me begin to figure out some things I had about people's behavior that I just couldn't understand before.

Many women, on this board and elsewhere, say that they usually or always put the needs and feelings of others before their own. They put the pain or hurt or need of others ahead of their own feelings, pain, needs, and so on.

This has never made sense to me. I understand putting first the welfare of a child, or the immediate needs of others in a crisis or an emergency. And I understand the need for compromise between adults on getting needs understood and met. But I've never been able to really comprehend why many women (and it's mostly women in my experience who do this) would do this so consistently and at such a high cost (at least from my perspective) to themselves. I've never understood why knowing, communicating about and getting one's needs met was seen by many woman as behaving selfishly.

However, the test helped me realize, first, that I was lucky enough to have parents who adored me AND who helped me create strong boundaries of self. This may seem obvious but I know some people, again usually women, who struggle with boundaries of self - knowing where one begins and ends, what is oneself and what is someone else.

Second, I'm fairly low on empathy for a woman. I'm empathetic but it often starts intellectually, rather than a bone deep knowing what someone else is feeling. I've learned this, rather than just know it the way many of my friends, including Beloved, seem to.

Finally, if I was highly empathetic, then I would feel others pain as my own. And I would certainly do what I had to ease or erase that pain, to ease my pain as well as to help someone else. I've never understood that about people who are very empathetic before. It's been really helpful to me!
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Old 06-22-2011, 07:42 AM
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My score: 52

Hmm, somewhat interesting. However, I think many of the questions about social situations are not necessarily an indicator of empathy. Every situation is unique and I'm comfortable in some more than others. I also think I won't always include or invite people to be part of something if I sense that they really want to be left alone. And comforting someone, I've learned, is sometimes detrimental to their ability to process feelings unfettered and undistracted by someone's "comforting" touch. Sometimes ya gotta let people feel what they feel and cry it all out without trying to make them feel better. So I wonder how such nuances would affect an empathy score.
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Old 06-22-2011, 09:36 PM
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I scored a 51 on this test. I was a bit surprised, I feel so selfish most of the time. Maybe I thought I was answering these questions honestly but this score shocked me. My husband and I have been poly for about 6 years and we are thinking about closing things back up to just the two of us. I have jealousy issues. I think its so difficult to find someone with a like mind set that I have interest in. He seems to have no problem at all with four relationships except that the amount of time and energy they take makes me unhappy. Way too odd that I scored on the high end of average. I feel so full of self hate because I am not managing well. I would love to allow him to be who he is. I have felt sometimes, that maybe if I had another relationship besides him, I wouldn't have quite the issue with being jealous. I'm just too introverted to do something about it.
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