Thank you for validating my trauma, lol. My parents did not raise me in a sexual vacuum, i mean, my father used to leave Hustler magazine in the bathroom under the Popular Mechanics, so when The People Vs. Larry Flynt came out, it brought back a lot of childhood memories... Also, i think my father did me a favor by spanking me because otherwise i might not have such a kinky sex life as i do now. A lot has happened since the last time you and i talked. I've added some new things and expanded upon others. But none of that is boring enough to talk about in public.
Anyway, i was not raised to believe that sex is dirty or shameful, but i was raised to believe that sex is private and that it is not something parents involve their children in, even though sex is what causes children to exist. My parents probably did have sex many other times that i never knew about because i either did not know what it was when it was happening, or because i did not wake up when it was happening. But my parents never said to me, "if you ever wake up and realize we're having sex, here are some ways you can deal with it: 1) make some sounds like you're waking up so we'll know you're awake and we'll stop 2) tell us you're awake and you can get up and leave... Etc.
I mean, let's get into this, because this is a good discussion to have. As a matter of fact, i was about to tell the story about the Hustler magazines in that thread started by the disabled woman with the 10 year old son looking at porn, but the thread went south before i got the chance to do that. So, let's hear people's thoughts on how to prepare the children for when they unexpectedly find their parent/s in the middle of having sex. Other than raising a family from scratch in a one-room dwelling ( which is part of ceratin cultures i think due to limited space and alternative options, not because of said culture being so much more "comfortable with sexuality" than western culture), how do you equip a child, especially a child at an age where sexuality is becoming a conscious "thing" to him or her, with the personal and interpersonal skills to handle themselves when they find themselves in the same room with their parents in the middle of sweaty humping? This is not the same thing as telling a child to knock if the bedroom door is closed.
Personally, i think that it is a sign of healthy and appropriate personal boundaries for someone to be squicked out by seeing or knowing about their parents' sex lives. Sure everyone has sex, but incest and raping children is WRONG, i don't care if it's perfectly acceptable in "other cultures", if that is so, then "other cultures" are WRONG. It is WRONG to involve your own children in your sex life, whether by deliberately molesting them or by not making sure they are not confronted with it by surprise or against their will. When the kids are adults and have the capability of making an informed choice like whether to watch their parents fuck, by all means i support the right for people to invite their children into the conjugal bed. But at any time during the formative years, it's just wrong to knowingly and purposely put one's children in that awkward situation. It's very selfish and nonempathetic, too. I feel relieved and glad that i will never have to deal with these matters from the position of being a parent.
Perhaps the moderator could split these last few posts into another thread...