Hi,
I am new to this and could use some advice as to how to navigate these tricky waters.
I'm 32 years old, a married man and have somewhat recently found that I am bisexual. The difference I suppose between my case and many others is that I have been happily married to a man and was never with a woman and never had a relationship with one.
My husband (who is gay) and I have had an open relationship for years, although in the past it's been mostly him seeing other guys, and I was fine with that (my husband and I have sex very rarely, only a few times a year). I'm not as interested in having casual sex, I enjoy sex a lot more when I have more feelings for the other person.
A close female friend of ours has been interested in me for a while, and I her. I always thought that nothing could happen there due to my marriage, so in the past I had to lie to her and tell her I was not interested when in actuality I was. The open relationship agreement that me and my husband have is mostly about sex and not romance, but with the woman I have not only strong sexual attraction but I care about her deeply and have some romantic attraction.
My relationship with the woman has developed further recently. I've been communicating with my husband the entire time, and he seemed fine with it at first, but as things get more serious now he seems a bit uncomfortable because it's not just casual sex with a stranger. He knows that it's just his own discomfort with the situation, that he's not used to this, and says that 'we will see how things go'.
I love my husband more than anything, but I'm also really enjoying this new (perhaps undefinable) intimate and caring relationship with my female friend and don't want that to get derailed. I would appreciate some advice as to how I can help my husband become more comfortable with the situation.
Thanks.
I am new to this and could use some advice as to how to navigate these tricky waters.
I'm 32 years old, a married man and have somewhat recently found that I am bisexual. The difference I suppose between my case and many others is that I have been happily married to a man and was never with a woman and never had a relationship with one.
My husband (who is gay) and I have had an open relationship for years, although in the past it's been mostly him seeing other guys, and I was fine with that (my husband and I have sex very rarely, only a few times a year). I'm not as interested in having casual sex, I enjoy sex a lot more when I have more feelings for the other person.
A close female friend of ours has been interested in me for a while, and I her. I always thought that nothing could happen there due to my marriage, so in the past I had to lie to her and tell her I was not interested when in actuality I was. The open relationship agreement that me and my husband have is mostly about sex and not romance, but with the woman I have not only strong sexual attraction but I care about her deeply and have some romantic attraction.
My relationship with the woman has developed further recently. I've been communicating with my husband the entire time, and he seemed fine with it at first, but as things get more serious now he seems a bit uncomfortable because it's not just casual sex with a stranger. He knows that it's just his own discomfort with the situation, that he's not used to this, and says that 'we will see how things go'.
I love my husband more than anything, but I'm also really enjoying this new (perhaps undefinable) intimate and caring relationship with my female friend and don't want that to get derailed. I would appreciate some advice as to how I can help my husband become more comfortable with the situation.
Thanks.
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