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Old 07-30-2014, 02:52 AM
Vinccenzo Vinccenzo is offline
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He is limiting you to avoid addressing all the reasons for why another man in your life threatens him.
He imagines another guy will diminish his sexual hold on you. And as long as you do comply with his rule, it reinforces another likely subconscious worry in him - that a guy will assert his will on you and affect decisions you make. He has no reason to think that unlikely. After all you're currently tolerating your primary's control of you.
This also shows he has a very typical misconception of intimate relationships between women. He doesn't see them as real or deep. He can't conceive of a woman being capable of influencing decisions in you the way a man can.
He can't overcome these things with a partner who exhibits all he fears by being controlled.
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