scarletzinnia
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I have a friendly acquaintance I will call Sam. Sam is involved in the early stages of a romantic, long-distance relationship with Lisa. I am also pretty good friends with Bill, one of Lisa's partners. Bill has revealed to me that his relationship with Lisa has been sexless for some years, and that furthermore, she is celibate with all her numerous partners, including her spouse. I do not know if she is asexual or has health issues, but it sounds like a combination of both, from the little Bill has told me.
I am 99 percent certain that Lisa has not revealed her celibacy to Sam. I am also 99 percent certain that Sam would not be pursuing this long-distance connection romantically, if at all, if he knew this.
I will not betray Bill's confidence in me, but I am wondering if there is any way to inspire Sam to ask Lisa questions that will help him avoid a worst-case scenario (say, him buying a very expensive plane ticket and traveling to see Lisa, without knowing that she intends their relationship to remain platonic)?
Of course, I suppose it is possible that Lisa is 1. lying to Bill and does have sexual relationships with her other partners, just not with him, or 2. that she is open to a sexual relationship with Sam even if she doesn't have one with her other partners. No way of knowing.
And yes, I know that this isn't my business and I should probably butt out. I just like Sam a lot and wondered if there was any way to help him avoid being hurt or disappointed, without being a busybody.
I am 99 percent certain that Lisa has not revealed her celibacy to Sam. I am also 99 percent certain that Sam would not be pursuing this long-distance connection romantically, if at all, if he knew this.
I will not betray Bill's confidence in me, but I am wondering if there is any way to inspire Sam to ask Lisa questions that will help him avoid a worst-case scenario (say, him buying a very expensive plane ticket and traveling to see Lisa, without knowing that she intends their relationship to remain platonic)?
Of course, I suppose it is possible that Lisa is 1. lying to Bill and does have sexual relationships with her other partners, just not with him, or 2. that she is open to a sexual relationship with Sam even if she doesn't have one with her other partners. No way of knowing.
And yes, I know that this isn't my business and I should probably butt out. I just like Sam a lot and wondered if there was any way to help him avoid being hurt or disappointed, without being a busybody.