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Old 09-18-2009, 04:06 AM
rubyfish rubyfish is offline
Join Date: Sep 2009
Location: Boston, MA
Posts: 53
Default Transitioning from mono to poly

Hi everyone,

I've been lurking for a little while and have some questions. I'm married right now and we've always been monogamous, but over the past year or so, I've been struggling. Not with the desire to cheat, as I have no interest in cheating, but because I feel like no one person could ever complete me. Right now we have a friend staying with us and we've formed a comfortable, but totally asexual, family unit. Since our friend moved in, my husband and I have been getting along better than we ever have and I've been happier than I have been in years.

I've tried to talk about this with my husband, that we're happier as triple then a couple, but he's so traditional I wonder at times how he deals with me. Is there a good way to start a dialog about it? He says he needs time to think, but I know he doesn't think about it, ever. I love him and want him to be happy, but I want to be happy to.

Thanks so much,

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