I was reading other posts, and was impressed by how many similarities there are in people's experiences. Some sound so familiar, you are left wondering if it's not your own story. I'm new to this and, like any newbie, I'm scared of making mistakes that would hurt those I care for.
What brings me looking for advice is my difficulties with handling how our relationship is now. My boyfriend and wife have been together many years. They started with this because of me. But he and I betrayed her trust at the beginning on a single occasion. We all have passed through many situations since then, and have found understanding and forgiveness, but I think that's something that will haunt me always.
Right now, I feel like I cannot complain about how it makes me feel that all the times we are together, she has to be part of it, while they get to have time for only them. We try to communicate all the time, but I feel like I have no real say in the matter.
I feel very deeply for him, but I can not help having doubts. Perhaps it's just that I'm not cut out for this sort of relationship?
Any advice would be very welcome.
Thanks,
Lory
What brings me looking for advice is my difficulties with handling how our relationship is now. My boyfriend and wife have been together many years. They started with this because of me. But he and I betrayed her trust at the beginning on a single occasion. We all have passed through many situations since then, and have found understanding and forgiveness, but I think that's something that will haunt me always.
Right now, I feel like I cannot complain about how it makes me feel that all the times we are together, she has to be part of it, while they get to have time for only them. We try to communicate all the time, but I feel like I have no real say in the matter.
I feel very deeply for him, but I can not help having doubts. Perhaps it's just that I'm not cut out for this sort of relationship?
Any advice would be very welcome.
Thanks,
Lory