I have been in a comitted relationship with my fiance for two years. I have 4 children not to her and she has one not to me but made plans for me to adopt him once we are married. Today after a job interview gone bad and several months of depression my finace told me she doesnt want to be in a committed relationship but would like to explore poly after reassuring me that she lovesme and still wants to be married. After a 13 year failed marriage where we tryed poly but failed miserably I am a little scared to repeat the same mistakes again. please any advice would be great.