That's an interesting problem to find yourself with, Derby, and an interesting solution. It always feels a little off-kilter when you start having sex with another after a drought, in my experience.
And my experience with this phenomenon is considerable! I'll keep it short since it
this is definitely off topic, but my sex life has very much been feast or famine, mostly due to my bipolar disorder I think. On one end of the pole, my libido and attractiveness are very low, and on the other end they are very high, especially if it's a sustained high or low.
So when I'm approaching a feast time, I find I'm continually conflicted. Casual sex seems unattractive in that, I'm usually not excited about it, and I'm a bit nervous that it might not be very good sex, mostly due to my own rustiness. Sex with someone I'm really into emotionally is also problematic: I'm very much
wanting that sex, but uncomfortable about giving a bad first impression sexually, again due to rust.
And the option that works best for me, sex with someone I'm into, but not really
that into, seems unfair to my new sex partner and leaves me feeling like an asshole. I feel like I'm getting someone else's hopes up, when I know inside myself, I'll be moving on shortly.
Well, I guess that wasn't too short after all.
Maybe this subject of restarting your sex life with others after a long time being sexually alone (or mostly alone) merits its own thread.
Anotherbo