AnnabelMore
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Ive got to say Anna I have enjoyed reading your posts and am utterly envious of your writing style
Thank you! I minored in writing at college, it's something I love to do.
Ive got to say Anna I have enjoyed reading your posts and am utterly envious of your writing style
Have you told Eric that you love him as a friend?
I often think that the relationship between the three of us is as healthy as it is because we've all already made and learned from so many of the mistakes there are to make.
So, you can see why I've held off.
All of you seem to understand one another very well and "get" one another separately and together. I think that among other things is what makes it work so well for all of you.
I've always said that we should never regret mistakes we make as we learn valuable lessons that enable us to grow.
That's quite a sad history that Gia and Eric have had, but luckily you all found each other, right?
At this point, which is lesser of two evils; to tell Eric you love him and hear him say he doesn't return your feelings, or not to tell Eric and take the risk that he DOES return your feelings?
Someone in another poly group I belong to posted this: http://www.psychologytoday.com/coll...elationships-1/taking-the-fear-out-i-love-you
It might be nice to frame it that way to him. And hopefully, that is what you mean and you don't need to hear it back from him, but just be free to tell him that's how you feel. That really is the most wonderful kind of love.
Your acts of lovingness and your openness to love are more important than any verbal affirmation of love.
Why do I have to get hung up on the words?
I think you're doing fine. I've told you this before, but I really don't think you have to focus or worry about the moment you tell him because I think it will just happen naturally if it does at all, and if it doesn't, know that he FEELS the love even if you don't say it.
And who knows -- he may surprise you and say it first!
I am just gushing over your writing. You do it so well. I love reading your blog. And I'm so envious of what you have, even including the longing, the doubts, the questioning. I don't even think you can really call yourself a secondary anymore. At least it doesn't seem as though you're treated like one. To have so much love in your life, mmmm... makes me hopeful.
I think the moment I really knew I was starting to fall in love with her was early on, when we were having sex. Not to get too pornographic, but I was tied up and Eric was doing things to me, and she was cradling my head and looking down at me and her face was suffused with intent and interest and feeling and she just breathed "Beautiful..." while looking into my eyes.
Why do I get the feeling I was just cheated out of some really good porn here ?
I also tend to fall for people during sex.
A-hi-jacking I go.