Brighty18
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Hi! If this is the wrong thread for this, I apologize...
I am curious as to how people who live with their multiple partners deal with things like finances, personal space, chores, and the other mundane details of family life. How do you divide space? Do you eat together? What are the problems that you encounter and how have you solved them? Are there things you've found that work well?
Specifics to our situation: A. (my legal husband) and I have been married 11 years and have lived together fro 13. We've always shared finances. C. is our partner of two years. He's lived with us on and off as he finished school on the East Coast, but will now by moving in full time. A. and I both have jobs and will be supporting C. until he finds something he wants to do. This seems fine for now, but I fear the potential for problems down the line.
We have a three bedroom house and share a single bedroom for sleeping. One of the other bedrooms will be C.'s private space (though I may have to use some of the closet for storage) and the other is A.'s music studio and a shared hobby area. This leaves me with no personal space. Right now, that's okay, but, again, I wonder if there could be problems later. This has all been fine when C was with us for a few weeks at a time, but now it will be ongoing. My only concern here is more about socializing and neatness, for the living room will be, by default, the space I use for myself.
We generally share meals, but A and I have slightly different work schedules and we all have slightly different nutritional needs. In fact, we joke about how we are "just three people with various digestive issues who love each other very much." We all love to cook and share food, so I'm not too worried about that.
I am curious as to how people who live with their multiple partners deal with things like finances, personal space, chores, and the other mundane details of family life. How do you divide space? Do you eat together? What are the problems that you encounter and how have you solved them? Are there things you've found that work well?
Specifics to our situation: A. (my legal husband) and I have been married 11 years and have lived together fro 13. We've always shared finances. C. is our partner of two years. He's lived with us on and off as he finished school on the East Coast, but will now by moving in full time. A. and I both have jobs and will be supporting C. until he finds something he wants to do. This seems fine for now, but I fear the potential for problems down the line.
We have a three bedroom house and share a single bedroom for sleeping. One of the other bedrooms will be C.'s private space (though I may have to use some of the closet for storage) and the other is A.'s music studio and a shared hobby area. This leaves me with no personal space. Right now, that's okay, but, again, I wonder if there could be problems later. This has all been fine when C was with us for a few weeks at a time, but now it will be ongoing. My only concern here is more about socializing and neatness, for the living room will be, by default, the space I use for myself.
We generally share meals, but A and I have slightly different work schedules and we all have slightly different nutritional needs. In fact, we joke about how we are "just three people with various digestive issues who love each other very much." We all love to cook and share food, so I'm not too worried about that.