You are right. You are absolutely right. I will speak up. If he doesn't like it or refuses to compromise or try and ease things on me then I shouldn't stay. We should want this equally.
Most definitely!
You are right. You are absolutely right. I will speak up. If he doesn't like it or refuses to compromise or try and ease things on me then I shouldn't stay. We should want this equally.
It has always been about me making things better for him, but never for myself. It's time I try to actually get something done for me.
... you can probably find many good starting places for conversations by reading through www.morethantwo.com, which covers a myriad of poly topics.
Best wishes to all xxx Sage
Hi Jurgenk
Welcome and I’m glad our musings, insights, tears and struggles have helped. I don’t come on here much anymore because after 6 years in my polymono relationship I can truly say that I am largely at peace with it. Ultimately for me this has come about by exploring polyamory for myself. I have had a number of poly relationships, and while each has helped in its own way my heart remains largely mono. While my poly partner is empowered and uplifted by his other relationships overall, I am inevitably drained, confused and hurt by them. Of course there are patches of joy but the downsides seem to outweigh the upsides, whereas the opposite is true for Mike.
I follow this thread so if I can be of any further help just sing out.
Sage