NeverMoreMonkey
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Ive personally felt like Im poly for the last five years. But never really discussed it and once I was dating my now husband I let it drop. I don't feel that monogamy is for me :/
My husband and I are both 25 and have discussed open relationships for the last year or so. Few months ago we transitioned into an open relationship. (He hasn't acted on this yet, he's more saving it for out of town) Our rules were/are more of a "Don't ask don't tell"
It feels uncomfortable because it creates lying by omission, in my opinion. Not saying who or when.
Also, part of the parameter we set was no committed relationships outside of ours.
Im starting to feel differently about the relationship part. Im not the kind of person who likes to have flings. And being married with a child in a small town (9,000) you have to trust the person enough not to go saying things to everyone.
I have a friend, who I have been intimate with a few times now. I really enjoy his company, Im not in love with him but I would like to date him, not just be a fwb. I already know he feels the same way.
I don't know how to introduce this idea to my husband. I don't want to leave him. I want him to be my #1 partner, and also have a boyfriend to share different experiences with. Im terrified that if I bring this up to my husband that he will shut down, or not be ok with me seeing my friend anymore if I bring up specifics. I don't want to lose this other person.
I grew up with a mom and step dad who were poly, and it worked for them and I see it as completely normal. I don't think it takes away from the other partner as long as theres trust.
Any suggestions or personal experiences would be appreciated. I don't know anyone poly (except my parents) and theirs crashed and burned after bringing in a permanent gf.
TL: DR: We have an open relationship, allowed to have romps. Id like to move into a poly relationship and have a long term bf too. I don't know how to approach the topic with my husband without creating hurt, jealousy, or losing my friend.
My husband and I are both 25 and have discussed open relationships for the last year or so. Few months ago we transitioned into an open relationship. (He hasn't acted on this yet, he's more saving it for out of town) Our rules were/are more of a "Don't ask don't tell"
It feels uncomfortable because it creates lying by omission, in my opinion. Not saying who or when.
Also, part of the parameter we set was no committed relationships outside of ours.
Im starting to feel differently about the relationship part. Im not the kind of person who likes to have flings. And being married with a child in a small town (9,000) you have to trust the person enough not to go saying things to everyone.
I have a friend, who I have been intimate with a few times now. I really enjoy his company, Im not in love with him but I would like to date him, not just be a fwb. I already know he feels the same way.
I don't know how to introduce this idea to my husband. I don't want to leave him. I want him to be my #1 partner, and also have a boyfriend to share different experiences with. Im terrified that if I bring this up to my husband that he will shut down, or not be ok with me seeing my friend anymore if I bring up specifics. I don't want to lose this other person.
I grew up with a mom and step dad who were poly, and it worked for them and I see it as completely normal. I don't think it takes away from the other partner as long as theres trust.
Any suggestions or personal experiences would be appreciated. I don't know anyone poly (except my parents) and theirs crashed and burned after bringing in a permanent gf.
TL: DR: We have an open relationship, allowed to have romps. Id like to move into a poly relationship and have a long term bf too. I don't know how to approach the topic with my husband without creating hurt, jealousy, or losing my friend.