starmonkey
New member
Hey everyone, I'm pretty new to this site - so I wanted to introduce myself.
I really appreciate the "READ THIS BEFORE POSTING: How to Write an Introduction" sticky. I am very new to polyamory - I have been a serial monogamist for years and years - My relationships always ended up with me feeling resentful frustrated and trapped. The last one was just too much, I realized it just wasn't working. I'm queer, so I have some experience bucking bucking society determining who I should love and/or screw. I decided it was time to try something different.
I met my girlfriend immediately, and she was OK with giving it a shot - more for me than her, at first. We have been together a bit under a year, and to be honest - I got hit hard with a feeling of insecurity, lost it in a bad fight - raising your voice, crying and asking her to leave kind of fight - trying to control her. It caught me off-guard; I've not really been a jealous type.
So I came here because I have been raised and programed. I think the best deprograming we have is each other.
I'm intimately involved with a long distance single monogamous female fiend, (sometimes sexual, when we can) - she was instrumental in helping me heal and see, and she will always be special to me.
My wonderful girlfriend is with me - just as new to poly as I. She is intimately involved with a really nice monogamous guy - I haven't met him yet, but I hope to, and I like him.
Aside from my long distance relationship - up to now I've only been casually screwing around with guys - and I have come to think that I have been avoiding real intimacy (for me screwing guys is easy - not much risk), and I want that to change.
I posted here the first time I just lost it to my insecurity. My intention is to learn from people here with more experience than I do. I have already gotten some great advice and helpful input.
I really appreciate the "READ THIS BEFORE POSTING: How to Write an Introduction" sticky. I am very new to polyamory - I have been a serial monogamist for years and years - My relationships always ended up with me feeling resentful frustrated and trapped. The last one was just too much, I realized it just wasn't working. I'm queer, so I have some experience bucking bucking society determining who I should love and/or screw. I decided it was time to try something different.
I met my girlfriend immediately, and she was OK with giving it a shot - more for me than her, at first. We have been together a bit under a year, and to be honest - I got hit hard with a feeling of insecurity, lost it in a bad fight - raising your voice, crying and asking her to leave kind of fight - trying to control her. It caught me off-guard; I've not really been a jealous type.
So I came here because I have been raised and programed. I think the best deprograming we have is each other.
I'm intimately involved with a long distance single monogamous female fiend, (sometimes sexual, when we can) - she was instrumental in helping me heal and see, and she will always be special to me.
My wonderful girlfriend is with me - just as new to poly as I. She is intimately involved with a really nice monogamous guy - I haven't met him yet, but I hope to, and I like him.
Aside from my long distance relationship - up to now I've only been casually screwing around with guys - and I have come to think that I have been avoiding real intimacy (for me screwing guys is easy - not much risk), and I want that to change.
I posted here the first time I just lost it to my insecurity. My intention is to learn from people here with more experience than I do. I have already gotten some great advice and helpful input.
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