I'd like to know more about asexual people if you don't mind Mono. I'm assuming that being asexual is a lifestyle choice like celibacy? Or, do you mean that asexual is a part of the sexuality of a person??
Why not? Asexual people can have multiple romantic partners and may never engage in sex.
I think it is totally possible to be romantically in love with people and not engage in sexual activity. The love is the same but the expression is just different.
For some this would be frustrating, for an asexual person this would be completely adequate. For a person with boundaries around physical partners it might only be tolerable.
You don't even need to include poly in this question because the same principle would apply to a romantic but non-sexual monogamous relationship.
Getting to know asexual people has really changed my view on love and sex.
I have never really thought about anyone being asexual, but it makes absolute sense if that person has no sexual leanings or predispositons.
The way I see it, poly is about emotion first, so I don't think it requires being sexual or wanting to be sexual with several people. It is the most common case, yes, but not the only one. If that's how you are, you could define yourself as polyamorous and monosexual, for instance (asexual if you're not monosexual either).
the collective energy that people expend trying to get into other peoples pants could power our cities
Getting to know asexual people has really changed my view on love and sex.
This is my question: How do you think sexuality and asexuality is affected by our own perception of our physical attractiveness.
Both of the people who identified as asexual at the meeting were very attractive.
One male; young fit, vigorous looking and confident. One woman; young, great curves, amazing wit and a great smile. I don't think it plays any part in it at all. I think that would be like a guy identifying as homesexual because he has a small build or feminine features. Even the idea of self image issues implies that asexuality can not exist in a healthy, fully confident person.
The asexual woman simply does not have any desire to engage in sexual activity with someone. I think I can relate at times. When my connection is broken or diminished with Redpepper I don't feel the desire for sex with any one...but it isn't from being turned off. At those times there is just no desire for sex. Not saying that asexual people have any issue with connection LOL! Asexual people develop fully romantic relationships without the desire to express them sexually.
I acknowledge asexuality as an orientation that does not need a sexual outlet to express romantic love.
Do you find it hard to believe that a person could actually not have an interest in sex?
I find that incredibly easy to believe. I just think that a person who wants to adopt the label as asexual is a person who has shut down sexually due to some short circuit and they aren't interested in becoming a fully functioning authentic human being......just sayin'
so- an asexual person is someone who simply doesn't want to delve into their own sexuality.