[redpepper]

It sounds like you know what you would like to try but don't know how to go about doing that without hurting your man... tricky. Really its a matter of deciding if it is worth seeing if your relationship will survive. It sounds like you have been very conscious of his feelings and the possibility of discovering something wonderful that he might not want to share with you. There is lots to learn yet, so I suggest taking your time... reading everything, talking about everything, and walking through the emotions that arise. At the end of the day it's your choice to take a step and see how you feel and his to allow himself to discover what your step brings for him.