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Old 10-10-2013, 06:05 PM
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Originally Posted by Magdlyn View Post
So, if your potential gf is allowed other partners, maybe already has a bf or gf of her own, has her own place nearby and her own transportation, her own financial independence, is "allowed" to get pregnant by your shared bf should she want to, with legal financial, practical and emotional support in place, is allowed to be "out" to your family and friends, can have dates and sex individually with each of you, etc., etc., this all could work.
Quoting myself to add another "if."

IF, after a few dates, a few hot sex sessions, the new girl decides she's really only into one of you, not both, what then?

Is she out on her ass? Or, does she keep getting to date and fuck just one of you? How does the "left out" partner then deal? There will probably be jealousy, resentment, disappointment and a bit of heart knicking and self-esteem hit.

How does the chosen partner deal? Will they feel bad for their original partner? A little guilty? Will the "new girl" still be allowed to come over and coo and cuddle and go off to have sex with the chosen partner while the left out partner (if they are still hot for new girl) sits in the corner and sulks?
Love withers under constraint; its very essence is liberty. It is compatible neither with envy, jealousy or fear. It is there most pure, perfect and unlimited when its votaries live in confidence, equality and unreserve. -- Shelley

Mags (poly, F, 63)
Pixi (poly, F, 41) my partner since January 2009, living together full time 6 years
Master, (mono, M, 37), Pixi's bf since April 2013
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