Being very new to all of this, I am naturally full of questions. I understand that in the end probably all my questions are ultimately situation based and there is no 'right' answer, but stories of experience always are insightful.
So, I have been dating R for about 2 months, and as his secondary, I was excited about still being able to explore relationships with others. I have been on a couple dates with A, and it's still up in the air, but the possibility that the dates could continue is a definite one. So, at what point do you tell someone new that you are involved with another person as well? On one hand it would seem odd or intimidating to unload that kind of info the first time you meet someone, especially if it ends up going nowhere, on the other, I can see how some might consider it deceptive. I mean, you don't normally introduce yourself to someone and immediately ask them how they feel about open relationships.
Additionally, have any of you ever been in a situation like the above with someone who may seem intrigued by the idea but possibly have a hard time getting past the idea that what youre looking for is not swinging or the 'limited quantity' love idea?
So, I have been dating R for about 2 months, and as his secondary, I was excited about still being able to explore relationships with others. I have been on a couple dates with A, and it's still up in the air, but the possibility that the dates could continue is a definite one. So, at what point do you tell someone new that you are involved with another person as well? On one hand it would seem odd or intimidating to unload that kind of info the first time you meet someone, especially if it ends up going nowhere, on the other, I can see how some might consider it deceptive. I mean, you don't normally introduce yourself to someone and immediately ask them how they feel about open relationships.
Additionally, have any of you ever been in a situation like the above with someone who may seem intrigued by the idea but possibly have a hard time getting past the idea that what youre looking for is not swinging or the 'limited quantity' love idea?