I don't know what to do. My ex dumped me a week ago. We where together for about four months. I know that may not seem long, but I feel like we had something really special. I felt like he was the first person that has truly understood me. He seemed okay with the fact that I am married and even met my husband about two weeks prior. Two days prior to the break up, he talked about how much he cared for me, loved me, and would do anything not to loose me.
So he gave me a few reasons why he broke it off. He divorced about 9 months ago, it was mutual. He said that he needs time to heal and work to improve himself. He does have depression and self esteem issues. He said till he fixes his issues, he can't have a "deep relationship" like ours. He also said that by breaking things off now he is protecting himself from getting hurt and after some deep thought he has decided that poly is not for him.
The breakup was a completely a surprise to me, everything was going so good. The only thing he ever indicated was that he wished he would have met me first, before my husband.
I haven't heard from him since, it's been a week. He said he needs time to heal from this and would like to be friends in the future.
I have never felt the pain that I feel now. It's really taking a toll on me. My husband is surprised at how hard I'm taking this. I am trying so hard not to contact him. He refuses to see me in person, says it's too difficult for him. He even dumped me in a text message. He said he couldn't bare to see me cry and didn't think he cold go through with it face to face. How cowardly!
I want to fight for him, but he has made up his mind. I don't know if I should try to fight or just let him go.
I did send him an email telling him how I felt, two days after the break up. All he said was that he balled his eyes out while reading it.
So he gave me a few reasons why he broke it off. He divorced about 9 months ago, it was mutual. He said that he needs time to heal and work to improve himself. He does have depression and self esteem issues. He said till he fixes his issues, he can't have a "deep relationship" like ours. He also said that by breaking things off now he is protecting himself from getting hurt and after some deep thought he has decided that poly is not for him.
The breakup was a completely a surprise to me, everything was going so good. The only thing he ever indicated was that he wished he would have met me first, before my husband.
I haven't heard from him since, it's been a week. He said he needs time to heal from this and would like to be friends in the future.
I have never felt the pain that I feel now. It's really taking a toll on me. My husband is surprised at how hard I'm taking this. I am trying so hard not to contact him. He refuses to see me in person, says it's too difficult for him. He even dumped me in a text message. He said he couldn't bare to see me cry and didn't think he cold go through with it face to face. How cowardly!
I want to fight for him, but he has made up his mind. I don't know if I should try to fight or just let him go.
I did send him an email telling him how I felt, two days after the break up. All he said was that he balled his eyes out while reading it.