Sweetheart
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I recently noticed that quite a few people seem to have arrived in the poly lifestyle through swinging.
What is your opinion on the subject of swinging?
What is your opinion on the subject of swinging?
I recently noticed that quite a few people seem to have arrived in the poly lifestyle through swinging.
What is your opinion on the subject of swinging?
The "divide" you speak of is one we choose to build - or not. You do. I don't think everyone else may. That's ok.
My point was that (if we even agreed) that "swinging" was "all about sex" as you say, that there's a good chance that that's what the participants "think" it is - for lack of sufficient self analysis. And through that gateway they MAY discover more. More about their own true nature & desires. That the "sex" - although maybe some small part - was NOT what that "pull" really was at all ! At the root of it was a desire for some deeper connection they felt they needed.
But I think your analogy i.e. golf, comes up short too. A better one might be between swimming and a triathlon
It's quite less-than-useful to conflate the actor with the act or to conflate the motivation with the act.
If you'd like, I can offer up distance throwing (just sex) as a disc sport (nonmonogamy) and contrast it with ultimate, which involves a good deal more than just throwing (sex as part of a relationship).
So, while both sports involve throwing a disc (nonmonogamy), they are not the same thing under any circumstances.
My own view is that polyamory and swinging are the ends of a spectrum on which nonmonogamous people lie.
Yes, swingers may become attached in some measure and that may lead to full-blown romantic ties and polyamory. Some folks may swing AND have multiple loving relationships.
Ok, yes, I have definite opinions on the subject. Sorry if I came across harsh.