OK, let me try a different tack for a moment.... and some of this may contain some over-generalizations....
Sure...
Most of the poly women that I know wouldn't be interested in a setup like you describe. They need to feel empowered, to feel like they are seen as a true individual desires and personalities.
Um, yeah I don't have a problem with that. So I'm not sure where everyone is getting the idea that I am a male chauvinist. There has been a lot of talk about this "harem" concept, but that's not really what this post was even about. That might be a fantasy and I've got some ideas jotted down for the fun of it, but I think everyone is really focusing on that comment which I said a few times was just a fleeting thought that was thrown out there during a discussion once with my wife-to-be. I mentioned it so that the entire range of what had been spoken could be understood, but that was very minimally mentioned, and is not part of our discussions. Though I appreciate your knowledge and experience, and it might come in handy if I am not able to stay with her and I attempt to create my "nest".
I don't think that what you are trying to set up is particularly empowering - it's saying that you are the alpha male and that they don't need to worry their little heads about anything - you will take care of them.
Hey look, that's the base. They can rely on me. If they want to be more independent or even take care of me or others, great that's wonderful. But the idea is to start somewhere honorable and respectful.
I have met (and for a while lived in) a section of society who tends to contain women who are more willing to want this sort of thing - a man to keep them and buy them pretty things. They tend to be quite two-faced, not open about their feelings, and will often go behind the backs of any situation that doesn't suit them.
Absolutely. And as someone who knows how to spot someone like that in an instant, I already know how to steer clear of that. But you are absolutely right. I would have a hard time finding an open poly woman who wants to be "kept". I appreciate you being able to say such things with a tongue of respect, but even I get irked about such a situation. I'm not a possessive person, I am not interested in owning girls. I just want to offer them the fun life I can lead, together.
Having an open and honest relationship with fully open communication will always be a massive challenge in a situation like this.
Yes I see what you mean. It's a personality thing.
I don't think that most of the tenets of poly are really going to apply in your ideal situation
No, they probably wouldn't. But I think I can cultivate it from impressionable girls.
because you are going to frequently be dealing with issues of cheating.
Ah well, that is to the point. However if guidelines as to their own sexual freedom are set out, than what might be considered cheating...won't be. Ok, so that'll have to be something I really carve out in the plan. I already have some ideas regarding STDs and BC and I'll need to work with other's ideas as they come into discussion.
You also haven't yet answered some of my other questions about your "rules" of sex that I wrote about above.
I'm open to working with the needs of the girls, and seeing what works for me and what doesn't. I'm new to this, so I am going in with an open mind and heart, and ready to adjust and learn along the way.
So I think that even if you do manage to come to terms with your current partner you are really going to struggle to find the type of woman that you're going to need to really make this work as a poly relationship, especially on a small island.
I see what you mean. But I've already got a "unicorn" cornered. If it wasn't for my fiancee being against moving someone in, she would probably already be living with us. She is super cool, hot, bi, and wants an intimate relationship with a man and a woman, and adores us. My fiancee unfortunately is being a cock-block to that vision, which I love and I'm sure many poly's love as well.
Most Caribbean islands... (and I'm not sure which one you are on, since being able to see Belize *and* Nicaragua would put you in the middle of the ocean somewhere south-west of Jamaica with the ability to see about 500 miles so not sure quite how large your mountain is...
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Haha, well done. Without giving up too much more information, I can indeed see the tips of Belizean mountains near the border of Belize at the horizon on a very clear day with my 400x Telescope, and I can indeed see mountains just before the border of Nicaragua even with my 10x Binoculars. I could tell you the distances in a private message if you like. Nice detective work
...tend to be fairly conservative and religious, so you'd be looking at ex-pats as your companions.
That's not the dynamic here though I hear you. This is not a conservative island at all. Think Cancun if you want to get in the right frame of mind.
I just can't see this working in any stable way for you, sorry.
Ok well that's good to know. I wouldn't want to throw everything away for a shot at something that's going to be frustrating and liek dealing with dynamite. But of course, I'm going to continue researching in the meantime, so I can get to the point where I have found a style which gives me the happiness I need as a person who is most likely poly oriented.
The "harem" castle thing is just a fantasy. If it can be done, I'll figure it out, but everyone can be rest assured that I would be doing it respectfully and safely and in the spirit of poly, not like a sex crazed male chauvinist which seems to be how everyone thinks I am. That's cool. I said the wrong things at some points here. I understand. I gave the wrong impression. It happens. But that is not what I am trying to do.