This is my first post on this forum so hi to all.
I'm hoping to get some advice on what I consider to be a fairly sticky situation. My wife and I got married in 2006. Last year we finally decided that we wanted to give an open relationship a shot and began seeing other people (separately for the most part). That alone seems to be something we can handle thus far. Jealousy has been an issue, but we've always worked through it.
Enter our female housemate. Our friend needed a place to stay so we opened our home. Since moving in with us, she and I have really hit it off as far as friendship goes. My wife likes to spend far more time away from home than I do which is part of the reason for this whole experiment. She needed more extroverted type fun than an introvert like myself cares to participate in on a daily basis.
As a result, I've had plenty of time to form a bond of sorts with our housemate. Long story short, she and I have feelings for each other, but my wife feels extremely threatened by that arrangement. I do understand her feelings. I'm sure I would feel the same if I were her.
So my question is this, in a truly open/poly relationship, is it unfair for me to ask her to do such a thing? For anyone who has attempted similar arrangements, your input would be extremely valuable to me. My wife isn't comfortable, but also wants to try to do what will make me happy. Should I just leave well enough alone or give this thing a try?
I'm hoping to get some advice on what I consider to be a fairly sticky situation. My wife and I got married in 2006. Last year we finally decided that we wanted to give an open relationship a shot and began seeing other people (separately for the most part). That alone seems to be something we can handle thus far. Jealousy has been an issue, but we've always worked through it.
Enter our female housemate. Our friend needed a place to stay so we opened our home. Since moving in with us, she and I have really hit it off as far as friendship goes. My wife likes to spend far more time away from home than I do which is part of the reason for this whole experiment. She needed more extroverted type fun than an introvert like myself cares to participate in on a daily basis.
As a result, I've had plenty of time to form a bond of sorts with our housemate. Long story short, she and I have feelings for each other, but my wife feels extremely threatened by that arrangement. I do understand her feelings. I'm sure I would feel the same if I were her.
So my question is this, in a truly open/poly relationship, is it unfair for me to ask her to do such a thing? For anyone who has attempted similar arrangements, your input would be extremely valuable to me. My wife isn't comfortable, but also wants to try to do what will make me happy. Should I just leave well enough alone or give this thing a try?