We are always talking about it. It is open for each of us. With of course rules/guidelines in place. It has been several years since we have had our relationship open again. As our growing family was blossoming, as well as some other life events, we chose to be mono. Now that things have settled down and we are in a place to bring that back into our lives. But that is not to say that we did not occassionaly bring someone into our life, even if it was brief. It just was not the main focus of our relationship like it was.
It feels like we are back to square one. Trying to find a community, discussing limits, working out time for each of us to be with someone else. But i am happy to be here and gettin back to of life.