Hi- I'm new to the polyamorous scene- and I'd like your thoughts on my relationship.
I met a man a year ago, and we started dating soon after- he said that he has never truly dated anyone before, but mainly did hookups and flings before he met me. We talked about our expectations a bit before starting the relationship, and for my sake, he decided to try a monogamous relationship.
Fast forward a few months- and he is seriously unhappy. We talk again, and it turns out that he wants an open relationship. I'm still in love, and so is he, so we decide to become polyamorous.
The trouble is this- I'm not exactly jealous, but I am worried that he was seeing other people before he told me he wanted an open relationship- and I wonder if him hooking up with random people is somehow worse or better than sticking to one other woman. Also, we also run a business together, and I wonder if being polyamourous is a way for him to alleviate the stress of working with me. All conventional wisdom says that these kind of relationships don't work in the long run, or ever, but I don't want to throw away a great partnership due to my insecurities. And the nature of this relationship makes it hard for me to get unbiased advice. It's getting to the point that I don't want to have sex with him anymore, because of how I'm feeling-that somehow I'm competing with all of the other women that he's sleeping with.
I met a man a year ago, and we started dating soon after- he said that he has never truly dated anyone before, but mainly did hookups and flings before he met me. We talked about our expectations a bit before starting the relationship, and for my sake, he decided to try a monogamous relationship.
Fast forward a few months- and he is seriously unhappy. We talk again, and it turns out that he wants an open relationship. I'm still in love, and so is he, so we decide to become polyamorous.
The trouble is this- I'm not exactly jealous, but I am worried that he was seeing other people before he told me he wanted an open relationship- and I wonder if him hooking up with random people is somehow worse or better than sticking to one other woman. Also, we also run a business together, and I wonder if being polyamourous is a way for him to alleviate the stress of working with me. All conventional wisdom says that these kind of relationships don't work in the long run, or ever, but I don't want to throw away a great partnership due to my insecurities. And the nature of this relationship makes it hard for me to get unbiased advice. It's getting to the point that I don't want to have sex with him anymore, because of how I'm feeling-that somehow I'm competing with all of the other women that he's sleeping with.