It's not your word choice I object to, it's your contention that there's an almost adversarial relationship between a monogamous partner and a polyamorous partner. I have never been told that TP cannot spend time with me because she's out with someone else; likewise she has never told her boyfriend that she cannot spend time with him because of me. There's no arbitrary or unilateral decisions made, it's always a consensus and discussion.
Frankly, if anyone on this board had discussed a relationship that you're implying is common, the advice would be overwhelmingly that the behaviour is a problem. From my own experience and discussing these relationships on here I have found that there has to be a certain amount of buy in from all parties, it's a relationship not a contest to compare who gets more time.
And on another note I think many of the posters on this board object not to your choice of words but to the contents of your arguments. From the posts of your's I've read, all carry the same argumentative tone, gross generalizations, and near complete obstinence. A little diplomacy and open mindedness to other views can go a long way; otherwise your points will be lost under the moniker of a troll poster.