My partner is planning to spend time with someone new, which is fine. I have several requests for her and I wondering if I could get some input as to whether or not these are reasonable things to ask for:
I would like for her to be home no later than (still thinking).
I would like to know when she will be home and I would like for her to come home at that time.
I would not like for her to call and ask me if I mind her staying out later.
Are these requests reasonable? Do I need to have a good reason for why I am asking for these things? Is it important that I share my reasons? Of course, I will tell her if she asks.
The first two are things I ask for when she goes out with friends, though I am usually very flexible. I'm not sure why it feels so different to ask for these things now.
These are definitely requests, not demands or ultimatums. I am willing to discuss them further if she doesn't think these are requests she can honor, though I don't know whether or not I'll feel any differently.
Any thoughts?
Thanks,
CZ
P.S. Out of curiosity, do you think the reason for making a request affects whether or not it is reasonable? Are there some requests that are always reasonable and always unreasonable?
I would like for her to be home no later than (still thinking).
I would like to know when she will be home and I would like for her to come home at that time.
I would not like for her to call and ask me if I mind her staying out later.
Are these requests reasonable? Do I need to have a good reason for why I am asking for these things? Is it important that I share my reasons? Of course, I will tell her if she asks.
The first two are things I ask for when she goes out with friends, though I am usually very flexible. I'm not sure why it feels so different to ask for these things now.
These are definitely requests, not demands or ultimatums. I am willing to discuss them further if she doesn't think these are requests she can honor, though I don't know whether or not I'll feel any differently.
Any thoughts?
Thanks,
CZ
P.S. Out of curiosity, do you think the reason for making a request affects whether or not it is reasonable? Are there some requests that are always reasonable and always unreasonable?