Hello,
I'm looking for some direction on how to make my marriage work. My husband and I have been married for 10 years now with two kids and I'm about to have our third any day now. Over the years my husband has had three relationships with other women that never got physical just emotional. The last time was just told to me a few days ago. Over the last month he has been very open and talking a lot about poly and the different options there are. I have only been in a sexual relationship with my husband and I have always been happy with that. I believe he feels that he has missed out on something because he as well has only been with me. The last emotional affair he had went a little further than I was comfortable with. He wanted her to send pictures of herself to him. I'm feeling betrayed by this. I feel like he only pushed the poly stuff on me to make his relationship with this other woman seem ok. I myself am hesitant to have a physical relationship with another and I do not want him being physical with another woman either. Talking with couples and flirting seem ok to me. Is there a way to make this marriage work and how do we decide on boundaries. I love my husband and don't want to lose our relationship because I am too close minded.
Thank you for any input.
Matrixx
I'm looking for some direction on how to make my marriage work. My husband and I have been married for 10 years now with two kids and I'm about to have our third any day now. Over the years my husband has had three relationships with other women that never got physical just emotional. The last time was just told to me a few days ago. Over the last month he has been very open and talking a lot about poly and the different options there are. I have only been in a sexual relationship with my husband and I have always been happy with that. I believe he feels that he has missed out on something because he as well has only been with me. The last emotional affair he had went a little further than I was comfortable with. He wanted her to send pictures of herself to him. I'm feeling betrayed by this. I feel like he only pushed the poly stuff on me to make his relationship with this other woman seem ok. I myself am hesitant to have a physical relationship with another and I do not want him being physical with another woman either. Talking with couples and flirting seem ok to me. Is there a way to make this marriage work and how do we decide on boundaries. I love my husband and don't want to lose our relationship because I am too close minded.
Thank you for any input.
Matrixx