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Old 02-07-2014, 02:00 PM
M7J8Y M7J8Y is offline
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Natja, to answer your question, I have had wonderful experiences talking to friends in the poly community before and getting excellent communication tools. Unfortunately none of those really apply to going from more-than-friends back to friends and I was hoping someone had some suggestions (other than "give her space", which in my experience doesn't work).

I am not looking to ask her to help me process through it beyond giving me a complete picture from her side of things and possibly listening to my side of things (something that we weren't able to do when she told me she had changed her mind). Blogging or talking to my partner don't fill in the information gaps... they are only speculation, which, if anything, will make it harder to stay friends (something we both want very much). In my experience, politely exchanging viewpoints is a good way of resolving this kind of issue. I was hoping for tools to help smooth that process out.
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