LovingRadiance
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I have offered to read out loud, I've suggested getting them on tape.
The thing is (and I've watched this for YEARS) if something is important to YOU as an individual-you find time to fit it in.
If it's not important to you personally-you will FIND a million excuses for not doing it.
I wanted to lose weight. But I didn't want to work at it. I made a MILLION excuses for not working out-for YEARS.
Finally I started forcing myself to do it-and asked GG to help force me too.
Two years after starting that, I am FINALLY at a point where I actually crave it enough to go do it without being dragged kicking and screaming.
TWO YEARS.
But NOW I have a personal interest and goal. I finally reached a point where I personally ENJOY it also.
The guys say there is "never" time. But GG was on the computer this morning and last night. He OFTEN finds time to look at movie trailers online. Often enough that my sister was rolling her eyes yesterday over him "not having time to read".
Both the guys watch movies almost every weekend.
When I first decided I needed to find a way to fix my marriage-I committed to reading for 15 minutes on my lunch break. That was ONLY 15 minutes DURING my lunch break each day-but by the end of a 5 day week that turns into over 1 hour a week of reading.
When i figured out that I was never getting a break from the kids-I committed to taking a bath in the evening-usually 1/2 hour. WHEN I take a bath, I read. ( I don't do it every evening and haven't done it at all in the two weeks prior to this week).
EITHER of the guys could do the same.
Everyone goes to bed betwen 9-10 around here, except GG. If he REALLY wanted to read the book (which he doesn't, and that's why it wasn't even on the book shelf with the books he DOES want to read) he could commit to reading for 15 minutes (which would not put him to sleep) every night at 10, because he has to be up till midnight (he's on call for work til then) anyway.
It's all about priorities (as GG always says).
IF something is important to you-you will bust your ass to find a way to make it happen.
IF something is not important to you-you won't make it happen.
I have offered to read out loud, I've suggested getting them on tape.
The thing is (and I've watched this for YEARS) if something is important to YOU as an individual-you find time to fit it in.
If it's not important to you personally-you will FIND a million excuses for not doing it.
I wanted to lose weight. But I didn't want to work at it. I made a MILLION excuses for not working out-for YEARS.
Finally I started forcing myself to do it-and asked GG to help force me too.
Two years after starting that, I am FINALLY at a point where I actually crave it enough to go do it without being dragged kicking and screaming.
TWO YEARS.
But NOW I have a personal interest and goal. I finally reached a point where I personally ENJOY it also.
The guys say there is "never" time. But GG was on the computer this morning and last night. He OFTEN finds time to look at movie trailers online. Often enough that my sister was rolling her eyes yesterday over him "not having time to read".
Both the guys watch movies almost every weekend.
When I first decided I needed to find a way to fix my marriage-I committed to reading for 15 minutes on my lunch break. That was ONLY 15 minutes DURING my lunch break each day-but by the end of a 5 day week that turns into over 1 hour a week of reading.
When i figured out that I was never getting a break from the kids-I committed to taking a bath in the evening-usually 1/2 hour. WHEN I take a bath, I read. ( I don't do it every evening and haven't done it at all in the two weeks prior to this week).
EITHER of the guys could do the same.
Everyone goes to bed betwen 9-10 around here, except GG. If he REALLY wanted to read the book (which he doesn't, and that's why it wasn't even on the book shelf with the books he DOES want to read) he could commit to reading for 15 minutes (which would not put him to sleep) every night at 10, because he has to be up till midnight (he's on call for work til then) anyway.
It's all about priorities (as GG always says).
IF something is important to you-you will bust your ass to find a way to make it happen.
IF something is not important to you-you won't make it happen.