thoguh this was before we knew his wife was on shakey ground with us being together, so im trying not too bring it up too much.
Again, if you want to know something, you could ASK.
I do not know why getting clear with the wife was not a part of the discussion before, but I see it wasn't. Well, could talk about it now then, to help you KNOW.
Knowing would relieve you of some of this anxiety "aaaaackkk! what if that... what if this..." stuff.
Is it possible to be co-primary with someone whos married to someone else?
Anything is possible. Is it possible for you guys like this? I have no idea.
Could ask all players if they are willing, could decide agreements, and could try it on for a time and see. Or not. Could try to be more assertive.
I feel the same way about BF, he just does something for me that feels so special. Probably why im so love hungry to have more of him. Hubs on the other hand, ive been with for 15 years so im so secure in our relationship and he knows just how to work with me
There's something to note.
Your relationship with BF is not yet secure because it is newer. Could note that, and chill out on the emotional plane. If you need reassure from BF to help you chill out, could ASK.
You having needs is you having needs. He either meets them or not. You find guys are compatible personalities/love styles or you come to find you are not compatible.
That's that the dating time is FOR. Could get on with it and ask the things you want to know.
Are you worried about dealing with disappointment if you come to find you are NOT compatible after all? Is that the hold up?
Galagirl