Mohegan
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It would not have been pretty. A good guess would be that he would not have believed or accepted that she was not as good for him as he immagined. It would have been taken as you being petty and jealous, nothing more.
Very likely this.
Likely you both will have a lot more respect for your instincts in the future. Just remember to take his advice and warnings when you find the situation reversed.
Yeah, I'm pretty sure we would not be where we are as far as our marriage had I vetoed things. For a lot of the reasoning you pointed out. And no worries, in the rare instance Karma does voice an opinion I do listen. Usualy.
As blind as I've been to her this whle time, you're right. It's taken me this long to see her for who she really is - it never would have happened earlier.
That makes me both stubborn AND stupid!
Which is exactly what got me thinking about the Veto thread to begin with. There were comments about "if your partner respects you and you have issues with them dating this person they'll break it off." I don't see it being a matter of respect, as much as, at that time you were so caught up in believing the show that was put on, you couldn't see what I saw. Maybe it goes back to trust. Trusting eachother to make the right decisions for our family? Can you do that when someone is so caught up in NRE that they can't see reality?
NOPE! Well not even going to touch the stubborn comment , but not stupid, it makes you human and capable of loving others inspite of their shortcommings. That is a gift to hang onto. Being able to determine if you can live with those shortcommings and how they will impact your life takes time and no one can make that decission for you. All Mo can do is point out her observations so you can be more aware of things to watch for.
It's something we both need to do. To trust that the issues we may have with future partners are a true thing and not born out of jealousy. Interesting things to think on.