SchrodingersCat
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I just have two questions re terminology used in this thread: what do "dtf" and "10&4's" mean?
Works out of town on 14 day cycles, 10 days on, 4 days off.
I just have two questions re terminology used in this thread: what do "dtf" and "10&4's" mean?
I know men like to chase,
Works out of town on 14 day cycles, 10 days on, 4 days off.
When I was briefly dating a married poly guy last summer, I remember a moment in bed with him when I looked down at his hand on my breast and got incredibly turned on by the fact that he was wearing a wedding ring. Normally, wedding rings aren't even something I register - I have to remind myself to look for one when I meet someone new - so I was really surprised by my reaction.When we started, wedding ring was on. I remember being in bed with him and thinking, "Yep, that's a first....(head explodes)"
Seriously, you may want to check the sexism at the door. I don't care to chase and never have. So much for the notion that liking to chase is part of being a man.
I think it has only become more common for men to wear wedding rings in the last 20 years or so. Before then, it was often considered only optional for the husband. I remember, in my late teens and early 20s, when I was going to bars and clubs, it was always a given that just because a man did not wear a ring did not mean he wasn't married. We had to ask if we wanted to know, because lots of married men just didn't wear rings. Hell, I will still ask if I don't see one. One just cannot assume anything!In the UK it wasn't common for men to wear a ring anyway, so I never expected to.
I think it has only become more common for men to wear wedding rings in the last 20 years or so. Before then, it was often considered only optional for the husband. I remember, in my late teens and early 20s, when I was going to bars and clubs, it was always a given that just because a man did not wear a ring did not mean he wasn't married. We had to ask if we wanted to know, because lots of married men just didn't wear rings. Hell, I will still ask if I don't see one. One just cannot assume anything!
I wonder if originally a wedding ring was only meant for the woman to wear as a signal (like having been branded) that she "belonged to" someone, since for a long time the institution of marriage was about wives being the property of their husbands.