racer812
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I was thinking that this thread should probably be moved to life stories and blogs, I have a tendency to use it as a way to get my feelings out.
I talked to a friend of mine today for like an hour on the phone. He has gone thru something similar to what I have going on. His wife got in contact with her ex, and within three months(right about know for me) she moved out, because she wasn't "happy". This all sounds way to familiar. He had a friend of his go thru the same thing about six months ago( I see a pattern). It worked out for both guys in the end, the wives came back to them. Grass wasn't greener after all. So with this new info, I think that I'm gonna try to insist on meeting H and then sit back and wait. Not sure if the waiting part is the smartest choice, I have a serious lack of patience sometimes, but I have learned thru the years that once a woman makes up her mind she's gonna do what she wants, when she wants. I am trying to think of a way to bring up the subject without K getting defensive, small chance. I also have realized that I'm letting this thing with H hang over my head, as in, be extra good or else. Feels like an ultimatum. Never have been able to deal with ultimatums very well, I tend to do exactly the opposite of what is wanted. This has been a huge learning experience for me. I hope K has been learning too. I found some info about the poly life and printed a copy for K to read, she doesn't think she is poly. She could be right, but I know in my heart that she has feelings for H, whether she will admit it or not. Why else would she fight so hard to keep him and risk what she has here at home. Well theres my thoughts and feelings for today. Thank you all for reading and giving me ideas and insight, it has helped.
I talked to a friend of mine today for like an hour on the phone. He has gone thru something similar to what I have going on. His wife got in contact with her ex, and within three months(right about know for me) she moved out, because she wasn't "happy". This all sounds way to familiar. He had a friend of his go thru the same thing about six months ago( I see a pattern). It worked out for both guys in the end, the wives came back to them. Grass wasn't greener after all. So with this new info, I think that I'm gonna try to insist on meeting H and then sit back and wait. Not sure if the waiting part is the smartest choice, I have a serious lack of patience sometimes, but I have learned thru the years that once a woman makes up her mind she's gonna do what she wants, when she wants. I am trying to think of a way to bring up the subject without K getting defensive, small chance. I also have realized that I'm letting this thing with H hang over my head, as in, be extra good or else. Feels like an ultimatum. Never have been able to deal with ultimatums very well, I tend to do exactly the opposite of what is wanted. This has been a huge learning experience for me. I hope K has been learning too. I found some info about the poly life and printed a copy for K to read, she doesn't think she is poly. She could be right, but I know in my heart that she has feelings for H, whether she will admit it or not. Why else would she fight so hard to keep him and risk what she has here at home. Well theres my thoughts and feelings for today. Thank you all for reading and giving me ideas and insight, it has helped.