Ok, so I had a date coming up that I mentioned last time, let's start with that.
Met with M, a local poly girl. She's seeing several other people, which I'm of course OK with. Had sushi, beers, and many good laughs. We get along great. A brief makeout session afterwards, but she had to work in the AM, so we called it quits after that. She's beautiful, and has some amazing, er, assets, but doesn't give me flutters though. I enjoyed kissing her and would do it again. She and I have texted a bit since, and she's pretty busy, but keeps saying she wants to get back together for another night out, so I'll keep my ear to the ground on the M front. It's casual.
Had another date, this time with G and myself and K, another local girl who is bi-curious, but never really BEEN with a woman. That date was fun, but she was about 30-40 pounds heavier than her OKC profile pictures and info let on. That was a bit of a letdown, but we still had fun. If I had been solo on the date with her, I'm certain it would have ended with a hug and maybe a small smooch. ...but with G in the picture, the sexual energy was contagious - a dangerous thing. The three of us wound up making out on a blanket at the beach in the starlight, topless. It was definitely fun, and I'm happy it happened. G had actually been considering changing her OKC status to "straight", but is now reminded that she likes girls too.
I'm reminded of how much fun it is to go out with her and another woman. Definitely the most fun I've had on a date in awhile, and it was because of G. They were more into each other than I was into K, or than K was into me, but that was OK.
Has ANOTHER date with a lady I met on OKC, let's call her T, and had incredible conversations with. We texted a ridiculous amount as well, and I was psyched to meet her. We seem to have a really awesome intellectual connection, but sadly, we seem to be missing that physical spark. At least, I'm missing it with her. She seems to be into me, but... I dunno. I'm just not feeling the sexy vibe myself. I think she's going to be a new friend for certain, but I'm not sure how to transition from "dating" to "friends" successfully. Advice is more than welcome on that front.
Finally, we went to this big crazy party last Friday - G got an invite on OKC from a local poly guy, who said she should come and bring me too. It was a blast! Circus acts, hot nurses in sexy outfits wandering the party and delivering "the cure" (booze) via oral syringe. I danced with a few very sexy ladies, G made out with one random guy who REALLY wanted to "take a walk". She also met someone who she had seen on OKC, but hadn't messaged back - they've got a date this week now. G seemed to not be feeling the "sexy" vibe, and was intimidated by a lot of the other women that night. This made me feel like I had to be restrained, even though G repeatedly stated she just wanted me to have fun. I also felt some protective urges, not because I wasn't ok sharing her, but because it was an unknown situation, with unknown people, in a part of town we do not frequent, and is also pretty heavily urban. I guess I couldn't completely let my guard down because of this, and that probably limited my ability to really meet and connect with other people. When she started making out with the guy, I was in the other room for a few minutes. I came to find her, and couldn't track her down. I looked around for a bit, even checked the restroom, getting kinda worried for reasons previously stated, and finally found them making out in a (very) dark room adjacent to the party. There were other people there, and it was a very big room, so I wasn't worried at all at that point - I was perfectly ok once I knew she was alright and where she was. I was a little peeved that she disappeared without giving me a heads-up though, and we talked that through just fine. Obviously she's a grown woman and I have to trust her to make good decisions and be able to take care of herself, but at the same time, it's my responsibility to do what I can to protect those I love without overreaching, and I don't think I'm out of line for wanting to keep track of those who I love when at a party full of unknowns. If it had been a sister, or just a female friend, I'd have felt a similar way.
I feel like I have more luck with ladies in person than online. There aren't usually a dozen or two men talking to a good looking woman at once in person, whereas online, it pretty much seems to be that way. I'm feeling a little disenfranchised with OKC at the moment, as the last three women I've met off there haven't really done the trick, and most of the women I try to contact ignore me or message me back with something like, "OMG, you're MARRIED! I can't do that!". *sigh* This brings me back to the conundrum of how to tell a woman in person that you're married without having her walk away.