I never thought I would be okay with sharing my husband, then I took a job overseas. I realized that I wouldn't be upset if he slept with someone else while I was away because I'm not there. He isn't choosing someone over me, he would be substituting. I have a lot of confidence in my marriage, I know that there is more to it than sex, so I don't think sex should be able to ruin it. He was raised as a catholic and although he doesn't practice any organized religion, it seems as though the guilt over sexul freedom and expression stayed with him. I doubt if I could have a poly lifestyle if I were at home, but I just don't see a problem with it for the situation. I could really use some advice on how to open up about this to him, I brought it up briefly before and he assumed that I wanted to sleep around.