Me and my guys recently moved in together, and most things have been going very well. The guys have strengthened their friendship and the overall feeling at home is good; lots of love and affection and companionship. We are renovating this house together, and the project goes slowly but proceeds. Both me and CJ have new jobs, there is no financial trouble.
However, I have lost my sex drive. Like completely lost it. And since my guys have no other partners, this means very little to no sex in this household. I expected this to be just temporary and get fixed by itself soon, but it has been going on for months now, and there is no sign of the sex drive returning.
This is starting to bother us all, and I have had discussions about it with both guys. I think the main reason why the sex drive disappeared is all the new responsibilities in my life; especially owning a property and doing the renovation has been extremely stressful to me. I feel like I need to spend each and every free moment doing household stuff or renovation stuff, and there just is no energy left for sex.
Also, it has felt surprisingly easy to slip back into not having sex. Most of my adult life I have lived single and celibate, so not having a sex life feels in a way comfortable and easy. I do not really miss having sex. When I was single I used to have an active life with many ongoing projects, and in many ways my life now feels similar. Of course this is not something my guys signed up for - I used to have an active sex life with them both prior to the move. This came as a surprise to me, too. Ever since I started having sex, I have had a steady sex life with no longer pauses than a couple of weeks.
Anyone have any similar experiences? Any thoughts or advice? I really would like to get my sex drive back and start having a “normal” sex life in this new situation. What could I do? What could my guys do to help me want sex again?
However, I have lost my sex drive. Like completely lost it. And since my guys have no other partners, this means very little to no sex in this household. I expected this to be just temporary and get fixed by itself soon, but it has been going on for months now, and there is no sign of the sex drive returning.
This is starting to bother us all, and I have had discussions about it with both guys. I think the main reason why the sex drive disappeared is all the new responsibilities in my life; especially owning a property and doing the renovation has been extremely stressful to me. I feel like I need to spend each and every free moment doing household stuff or renovation stuff, and there just is no energy left for sex.
Also, it has felt surprisingly easy to slip back into not having sex. Most of my adult life I have lived single and celibate, so not having a sex life feels in a way comfortable and easy. I do not really miss having sex. When I was single I used to have an active life with many ongoing projects, and in many ways my life now feels similar. Of course this is not something my guys signed up for - I used to have an active sex life with them both prior to the move. This came as a surprise to me, too. Ever since I started having sex, I have had a steady sex life with no longer pauses than a couple of weeks.
Anyone have any similar experiences? Any thoughts or advice? I really would like to get my sex drive back and start having a “normal” sex life in this new situation. What could I do? What could my guys do to help me want sex again?