So still no place for Mono. We have adjusted at this point. He (and I) come upstairs to eat, pee, have a glass of water, shower. It sucks, that part, as we loved our mornings of breaky in bed, showers after sweaty sex and getting up to pee after drinking. It's not to be right now. Still, we have managed. He has made himself a nest of stuff, including his bed, so that I can have my space back. That is working.
There's no sign of anyone ready to fix the mess. Apparently they are waiting for the insurance company to sign off on it.
I went on a date with Leo last week. It was a nice time. The same ol' pent up need to express ourselves as we see fit, to no avail, ending in frustration. It will be three years soon, a bizarre thought.
I learned something about his wife this time. Apparently she is struggling with our connection almost as much as Mono does. For he,r the issue is emotional fidelity, for him, sexual fidelity. I guess its hard for her to see her husband close to another woman. I didn't know that. Guessed it, but didn't know for sure. He says that even if we could engage in a deeper level of connection with each other, there would also be the hurdle of helping her to feel comfortable.
I had a date with my darling hubby last week. We went to an alternative dance. There was a DJ from Australia coming and PN was keen to hear them and dance to them. It was interesting to watch him float around the floor, socializing with people I either barely knew or didn't know at all.
He talked with a woman he was a bit interested in, who had ditched him for coffee a couple of days earlier. I watched him sort that out with her and listened when he talked about his lack of interest as a result. He had had a weird conversation with her. It obviously made him feel sad so I gave him lots of words of encouragement and lovin'. We had a great night and it was a relaxing dancey time.
On Saturday, my beautiful Derby and I went out for a night of fun and frivolousness. We went to see the Big Lebowski, in a quote-along version. We dressed up as characters from the movie and were in a competition for best costume. We didn't win anything. We had a good talk while we waited for the movie and had a snuggly time during. It was a really nice night. We hadn't been on a date in a while due to vacations and summer business.
Mono had a reunion with some old friends this weekend, which he'd ditched when his wife kicked him out. They were owners of a fight club that he was highly involved in for some time before he left. They were very accepting of him being at the party. They invited him back to work for them when he retires from the military. He was very excited but nervous. I hope it sorts out and he is able to at least be involved some way. He missed it! It was one of the first things he told me about when we first dated. He has a tattoo from the club's logo. (He can correct me if I am wrong on that one. I can't remember how it was related.)
I have to say, I don't get the appeal of fighting. They train police officers, etc., on how to handle situations of physical violence. I suppose that is valuable. I have been trying to incorporate the whole idea into my head, in terms of how I see skilled verbal communication to be of importance. It's just not part of the world I have ever known, but I am eager to find out more.
Talk about a world of difference between PN's dance party and the party Mono went to! It makes me laugh.
I am such a chameleon really. I can blend at many events.
So, about me. Hmm... not much to say. I find myself uninterested in reading and writing on the forum right now, perhaps due to the high need to be elsewhere giving my support right now in several ways. I am glad to offer support elsewhere right now as I have had much from some of those that I am giving to. That is important to me.
I have been working on several projects and making plans for future events and fun stuff, burlesque included. I look forward to winter projects in this way. On top of that, I admin a FB group that demands a lot of attention sometimes and it wears me out to give it. Not in a bad way, but I am trying to respect myself and allow myself the time to increase my energy. I know many of you from there, as I have added you. I love that we come together there and are able to stay connected outside of this space.
Well, I have sat here staring at this for a few minutes. It's after midnight, and I have nothing else to say. So that's it for now.
*hugs*