Hey Poly-
I can relate to what your bf may be going through...Since our open marriage contract, our sex life, although bad before has come to a hault... Her true emotionless self is becoming more visable...She does all this with a smile as if it is acceptable for me because of our new open marriage.
If I can project myself into your bf , I can understand...
Do they stay together for finances?
Is he just afraid of being alone?
Your bf's wife is his plan B. He needs to be a primary to somebody else...Somebody who likes sex... I don't think your bf is poly, just like I don't believe I am poly... I think I am becoming that slowly. I realize that no one person an be everything...
Your bf found a woman who enjoys his company as well as sex...(you).He knows, it may not give him what he truly desires because you are married, and happily in a poy relationship... Your husband and bf even get along well enough for you bf to open up to your husband...
When the time comes and I do find myself in a relationship, I will ostill hang on to that fairytale marriage, even though deep down, that doesn't exist...
If your bf left his wife...What then?
How would he spend his evenings when not with you?
Some days, I feel my wife has no romantic love at all. I wonder if I will ever have that with any woman..
Many many years back while in the Navy, I had the best sexual relationship ever with a stripper... She wasn't a stripper when I met her though.. It was just about sex...no deep love and it was good...it was great..
It really sucks to have feelings for another and hang on to any sliver of love that just may not be there...your bf still loves his wife, even though she may not show him any love..
I bet he bends over backwards to earn her love....