NeonKaos
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Vexxed, if you "said that judging a man by his sense of humor is shallow and unfair" (which you just did do), I would say "just because you say something doesn't make it so" (which I just did do). A sense of humor is something about who a person is that cannot be taken away from them very easily. Looks, money, and life-trappings are not part of who someone is - those things can be taken away and a person will still have whatever it is inside them that makes them who they are. For example, if you lost everything in a flood, you would still be you, you would not be the things you lost in the flood. If you disagree with that, therein lies the root of your problem.
I am attracted to people whose sense of humor is similar to my own. I supposed that is a form of "judging" someone. I do not agree that "judging" is a bad thing always. It's something people do all the time without realizing it. Whether one prefers chocolate or vanilla ice cream is a form of "judgment". If I'm attracted to one person but not another even though they both make the same amount of money and are the same height and have the same sexual resume, I'm "judging" them. It does not follow that the person I am less attracted to is less of a human being or less worthy of love and appreciation in their own right.
In their OWN right. I also find self-esteem very attractive.
So you're right, people are constantly judging each other over a variety of things. That doesn't mean that just because someone has more than one partner that when they're with one partner, they're thinking about how much better the other partners are at sex.
I am attracted to people whose sense of humor is similar to my own. I supposed that is a form of "judging" someone. I do not agree that "judging" is a bad thing always. It's something people do all the time without realizing it. Whether one prefers chocolate or vanilla ice cream is a form of "judgment". If I'm attracted to one person but not another even though they both make the same amount of money and are the same height and have the same sexual resume, I'm "judging" them. It does not follow that the person I am less attracted to is less of a human being or less worthy of love and appreciation in their own right.
In their OWN right. I also find self-esteem very attractive.
So you're right, people are constantly judging each other over a variety of things. That doesn't mean that just because someone has more than one partner that when they're with one partner, they're thinking about how much better the other partners are at sex.
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