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Old 02-28-2013, 07:17 PM
GalaGirl GalaGirl is offline
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What shit?

So.. am I really wrong in your opinion in doing this? Is this morally wrong?
You ask for feedback on that and people answer.

I apologize if what I write is hard to read/hear and hurt you somehow. My intent is not to hurt you. I am not judging you. You will choose what you choose. You are the boss of you. I'm not going to tell you what you should and should not do. That's up to you. My intent is to try to point out other ways to go to consider if that could serve you just as good. *shrug*

It might not be "right" in the eyes of the law, but it's not really hurting anyone is it?
That seems to imply that in your heart of hearts you know it is not ok with YOU.

YOU are someone, right? So far it's caused you this much brain space and heart space to contemplate doing. Are you experiencing peace of mind? You do not seem to be. That's a kind of hurt. Not a HUGE hurt like getting run over the bus would feel like but a ping in the heart there somewhere.

Again I see that you are frustrated you have not gotten more nibbles to your profile. It is disappointing. But it is what it is. I am sorry you feel frustrated.
  • If you are willing to ignore your ping as the price of admission, then go ahead. It's your profile -- take stuff out. See if it serves you better than the current profile. Deal with the price of admission -- not having full peace of mind for a time because you got a ping. Deal with the dating potentials reactions when you do disclose.
  • If you are unsure of your willingness to make changes like that by leaving stuff out... I'm just trying to point out OTHER things you could do to make changes in your profile to put more info IN to see if that will serve you better than the current profile AND let's you have peace of mind ping-free while making the changes too.

Maybe there's other suggestions for profile management that other people could think of. Who knows?

In the end, you have to determine what is best for you and your profile and balance it against your wants, needs, limits and best healths. You determine what you feel like dealing with/in.

You are in a time of discernment. Spend the time to sort yourself out -- is all I'm saying. I just do not recommend not being true to yourself. That feels gross to me if/when I go there so I try not to go there to begin with.


Last edited by GalaGirl; 02-28-2013 at 07:58 PM.
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