SNeacail
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1. The person trying to get their point across has a clear understanding of the point. Sometimes - its a matter of having to talk it out to understand it clearly.
2. The person who's "listening" actually hears what's being said - not what he or she WANTS to hear based on their perception of the situation. Last night Wellington and I had a major breakthrough. In MY perception - I have been saying the same things over and over and over but he just didn't *GET* it. Apparently last night I was crystal clear. I thought I was saying the same things in the same way... but he got it last night.
My husband decides I'm just processing so he decides to just check out. If I ask him to repeat back what I said (like our councelor suggested), he says "Oh, I'm sorry, I thought you were just processing. What did you say?" UUGH!
We had one of those "GET IT" moments about a month ago on something that has been going back and forth for 18 years. I totally understand that feeling of absolute relief.