SchrodingersCat
Active member
I don't get how friends are any different than partners. It's not like they're dating your kid. No matter what the relationship to you, they're just "someone who comes over sometimes" I don't understand why you would have higher standards with respect to meeting your kids for partners over friends.
I also don't understand why you wouldn't want your kids to see what happy, healthy romantic relationships look like.
Or what if you date someone for like two years and then finally decide, OK this is someone I want to be with for the long term, it's time to introduce them to my kid... and then their personalities completely clash, not because your partner is a bad person or you didn't do a good enough job making sure they're stable and reliable... but just because not everyone gets along with everyone. So what then, you've invested all this time and energy and you're just going to say "see ya, my kid is #1 and my needs don't matter" or you're going to force your kid to get over it or you're going to keep seeing them out of the house, so that you never really have the kind of relationship you really want.
*shrug* I just don't believe in sheltering kids from reality. That's naive. That doesn't mean I believe in going out of your way to expose them to pain and suffering just to prove a point. That's sadistic. The middle ground is to just let life happen. It's going to anyway, why try to stop the inevitable?
Of course, at the end of the day, it's the choice of the individual parent and you have to do what's right for you and what is, to the best of your knowledge, best for your particular kid. Sometimes you'll get it wrong, hey you're only human right?
I also don't understand why you wouldn't want your kids to see what happy, healthy romantic relationships look like.
Or what if you date someone for like two years and then finally decide, OK this is someone I want to be with for the long term, it's time to introduce them to my kid... and then their personalities completely clash, not because your partner is a bad person or you didn't do a good enough job making sure they're stable and reliable... but just because not everyone gets along with everyone. So what then, you've invested all this time and energy and you're just going to say "see ya, my kid is #1 and my needs don't matter" or you're going to force your kid to get over it or you're going to keep seeing them out of the house, so that you never really have the kind of relationship you really want.
*shrug* I just don't believe in sheltering kids from reality. That's naive. That doesn't mean I believe in going out of your way to expose them to pain and suffering just to prove a point. That's sadistic. The middle ground is to just let life happen. It's going to anyway, why try to stop the inevitable?
Of course, at the end of the day, it's the choice of the individual parent and you have to do what's right for you and what is, to the best of your knowledge, best for your particular kid. Sometimes you'll get it wrong, hey you're only human right?