nycindie
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Oh. My. Gawd.
I just received the most bizarre message on OKC.
It's from a guy who lives in another part of the state, way too far for anything to start up, but he felt he had to write to let me know that he doesn't like my hair:
Niiiiiiiice. My hair isn't even totally grey, it's brown and grey mixed. And people constantly tell me I look way younger than I am, anyway.
Well, you know the old saying, "If I wanted your opinion, I'd ask." I like to modify that one to: "If I wanted your opinion, I'd beat it out of you."
This from a 55 year old guy (maybe at that age, he's dated some silver-haired women? Ya think??), who is rather unattractive, and who has three pictures up - one of his dog, one of Niagara Falls, and one lousy closeup of his face taken from his computer's webcam. And he's not model material by any means, being quite overweight (I mention this not to say I find overweight people unattractive, which isn't the case, but that I think his stance is odd considering that he is not the societal ideal anymore than my hair is).
Sheesh. Some people. I wrote back and told him: "Regarding my hair, well I am so glad I don't wear it the way I do for you. I don't give a shit who doesn't like it, since it makes me happy not to dye it anymore, after doing so since my 20s. I embrace my natural beauty and do not live my life to please other people, though plenty of men message me here just to say how much they love my hair."
What an asshole! I mean, I'm not saying that everyone has to like the color of my hair, but why write just to tell me you don't?? Move on if it's such a turn-off. I'm not going around writing to guys whose features I find unattractive, just so they know about it. Unbelievable!
I just received the most bizarre message on OKC.
It's from a guy who lives in another part of the state, way too far for anything to start up, but he felt he had to write to let me know that he doesn't like my hair:
"Men like women who have a youthful appearance and to express a minority opinion, your hair doesn't communicate youthfulness nor a great deal of care. Neither thing can be objectively measured of course, its just an opinion. I read where you feel you get lots of positive feedback so perhaps this is a balance. I see a head of gray hair on a woman and I think of my granny."
Niiiiiiiice. My hair isn't even totally grey, it's brown and grey mixed. And people constantly tell me I look way younger than I am, anyway.
Well, you know the old saying, "If I wanted your opinion, I'd ask." I like to modify that one to: "If I wanted your opinion, I'd beat it out of you."
This from a 55 year old guy (maybe at that age, he's dated some silver-haired women? Ya think??), who is rather unattractive, and who has three pictures up - one of his dog, one of Niagara Falls, and one lousy closeup of his face taken from his computer's webcam. And he's not model material by any means, being quite overweight (I mention this not to say I find overweight people unattractive, which isn't the case, but that I think his stance is odd considering that he is not the societal ideal anymore than my hair is).
Sheesh. Some people. I wrote back and told him: "Regarding my hair, well I am so glad I don't wear it the way I do for you. I don't give a shit who doesn't like it, since it makes me happy not to dye it anymore, after doing so since my 20s. I embrace my natural beauty and do not live my life to please other people, though plenty of men message me here just to say how much they love my hair."
What an asshole! I mean, I'm not saying that everyone has to like the color of my hair, but why write just to tell me you don't?? Move on if it's such a turn-off. I'm not going around writing to guys whose features I find unattractive, just so they know about it. Unbelievable!
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