thinker, I'm aware it's not a stable situation, but frankly it wouldn't matter if we were married because we are both very much opposed to the State being involved in private matters. Neither of us would ever push for child support or alimony, so it's a moot point. I'd be just as penniless if we had a marriage license.
As an individual, you have every right to stick to your principles. But the moment you gave birth, you gave up that right in exchange for the responsibility of caring for another human being.
So becoming a parent means you should no longer have principles?
I think what you are trying to suggest is that in this case one principle (making sure her child is well provided for) should trump another (not seeking state involvement). Not that she shouldn't stick to her principles in general.
Invi hasn't posted here or responded to my PM in 7 days. :S
Makes me worry some.