willowstar
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As I continue to navigate this multiple partner thing, (LOL), I am beginning to consider having a set schedule for who I spend my evenings with. My BF is married with his own family, so I am not talking about actual date time. We currently see each other during the day while his kids are at school. But what is happening right now is that each of my guys asks me "what the plan is" for the night. Husband wants to know whether Im planning on staying up to chat with BF (we text or FB chat), and BF wants to know whether I am hanging with hubby or available to spend time with him.
It makes me feel like I have to choose between them every day. And it is making me a little crazy, and feeling guilty when I choose one over the other. BF is wonderfully magnanimous and always stipulates that I have every right to spend time with hubby and that he has no right to say otherwise. Hubby is mostly good about it, but I can always tell that he is a little disappointed when I choose to not hang with him all night. I also feel that it is too easy to let too many days go by before he starts feeling left out.
There are certain nights that BF has family obligations (scouts, etc.) and those nights make sense that I would spend that time with hubby. Also, hubby and I have TV shows we like to watch, and those are nights to spend with him. With all the NRE I currently have, what I really want is to spend every night chatting with BF, but that is not realistic or fair.
Hubby does not like the idea of having a schedule for us because he is concerned that I would only be spending time with him because it's "his night" and not because I "chose him". But of course, I AM choosing him because I am making sure he has nights all for himself.
Thoughts? Opinions? Do you have schedules like this? What do you like about it? What do you dislike?
Thank you!!
Willow
It makes me feel like I have to choose between them every day. And it is making me a little crazy, and feeling guilty when I choose one over the other. BF is wonderfully magnanimous and always stipulates that I have every right to spend time with hubby and that he has no right to say otherwise. Hubby is mostly good about it, but I can always tell that he is a little disappointed when I choose to not hang with him all night. I also feel that it is too easy to let too many days go by before he starts feeling left out.
There are certain nights that BF has family obligations (scouts, etc.) and those nights make sense that I would spend that time with hubby. Also, hubby and I have TV shows we like to watch, and those are nights to spend with him. With all the NRE I currently have, what I really want is to spend every night chatting with BF, but that is not realistic or fair.
Hubby does not like the idea of having a schedule for us because he is concerned that I would only be spending time with him because it's "his night" and not because I "chose him". But of course, I AM choosing him because I am making sure he has nights all for himself.
Thoughts? Opinions? Do you have schedules like this? What do you like about it? What do you dislike?
Thank you!!
Willow